I also work this way. A commit is really about, well, committing that these are exactly the right lines of code I intended to write. I also read them in another program, so it gets easier to not think that I already know the code and skip over. I basically start from the clean state (no changes) again and approve the changes line-by-line according to whether they fit the domain model of the program, whether they are in the right places, are the right amount of complexity/abstraction, if they are readable/understandable. I typically also add/remove comments at that point, because I've now tried to read the code with a "second pair of eyes".
I also use this to compare the changes to the commit messages. Ideally the changes follow from the message, not the other way around.
While a VCS is also useful for adding a time-axis to code, for me the main selling point is, that it's adding causality to the code. You can ask 'Why is this code how it is?'. (Of course causality is a side-effect of time.) When you don't curate the commits you completely loose this feature. (You can still ask, but the answers will be confusing and need way more work, which for me amounts to manually comparing commits to grasp the big picture and intention.)
> rebase/amend
When you messed up, you can of course change commits, but this has a danger of creating a version that was never there or mixing history, for example combining a single physical change, that are multiple logical changes. In order to test that the code at least works I use ```git rebase --exec="make -C build distcheck"```, not sure if that is common.
I also don't use MS GitHub -style merges, I find them inferior. (I also don't use MS GitHub, but that's for another reason.) I think they try to make merges the actual unit of change, which is stupid, because that is what a commit is for. To me merges are about semantic grouping of commits, i.e. maintaining a tree of commits representing the logical evolution of the code.
Yes the staging area is exactly designed for this approach and I don't like people telling me I'm holding it wrong and don't need it. To use a metaphor, I think the staging area is like my desk were I'm producing stuff (I'm not producing code, I'm producing changes). Committing is about having produced a complete opus and then cleaning the desk. Cleaning isn't seen as annoying, it is important for the mind to process completing/validating and then starting afresh. Stashing is in this metaphor about switching to an alternate desk. This is different from putting the opus aside and having also a clean desk. (I think that is what Jujutsu wants you to do?) Having the staging-area/stash different from commits is a feature, the fact that the stash is the same storage-wise is an implementation detail.