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> I wish the West was set up where we could volunteer family members This sounds insane so I surely must be misreading. Do you not mean "where we could volunteer [ourselves]"? I'm imagining a scene in the style of "The Death of Stalin" where I am woken up in the middle of the night and told "your brother has nominated you for relief efforts in Morocco, you have 10 minutes to gather your things."
> Do you not mean "where we could volunteer [ourselves]"? Sort of. I meant where we=family could volunteer members of the family. Me and 5 adult sons live together. Everything is shared (resources, decisions) and 'we' winds up supplanting 'I' a lot. To reduce confusion, I can be more mindful of pronoun use. At least until the new economy makes our arrangement widely familiar.
Best of luck to you and your family.