The annoying thing is When one of the parents is very allergic to peanuts, so you have to give it to the child elsewhere, and no friends or relatives want that responsibility. You get very little support from elsewhere. (My wife is allergic to sesame. We have tried to get people to have hummus parties with our children but to this day they have not eaten any sesame as far as we are aware.)
Children are getting older, and thankfully, are no afflicted with the same allergy as their mother. But as time wears on, it is truly emotionally draining. The nuts held in a hermetically sealed container are compared to a caged viper - as they can easily cause life-threatening anaphylaxis for exactly 1 person in the household. We have to follow a super-clean process outside-and-inside to give an introduction, but you know what, kids don't always want to do what they're told. It sucks, and it's a problem more and more people will have in the future.