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Without parental leave I might be dead

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Re: Without parental leave I might be dead

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I really cant understand the logic of forcing women back into work after 2-4 weeks. Its just not beneficial for anyone. The mum is utterly frazzled. The employer gets half an employee back Society is conditioned to think that the only practical way to raise a baby is to give up on work/get live in care. now, to look at it from a "my mum managed, I don't want to undermine the american nuclear family" point of view: Ye…

> Given that _every_ other "civilised" country has some sort of rudimentary care for new parents, which doesn't acutally cost that much, I can't see any reasonable objection to not having it. Giving a special benefit that will for the most part only be exercised by women discourages hiring women. You can still think its worth it, but don't pretend like you're baffled by anyone who would object or question how this im…

Maternity/parental leave is typically paid by the state, not by the employers. If both parents can take a leave, then it does not discourage hiring women.

Re: Without parental leave I might be dead

#172
post #7

I believe parental leave should be provided, but I don't see how anyone expects employers to shoulder the burden of providing paid parental (in reality maternity) leave without an implicit bias towards hiring men (or at least paying women less). You can provide the same benefit to men and women, but let's be honest, even when available most men take only a fraction of the allowed time. I guess you can force people to…

Even accepting the tradeoff you posit, the basis of this argument seems to be that given the choice between guaranteed maternity leave and marginally higher expected pay, women should prefer the latter, or at least not be forced to chose the former.

Have you asked any actual women about that?

Re: Without parental leave I might be dead

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> not using their time well for making money. you've not worked in retail have you?

I have never worked in retail. I have only made money from programming.

Consider this discussion as an exercise in humility, that the mental model of poverty as a result of poor choice may be flawed.

Re: Without parental leave I might be dead

#174
post #168

I really cant understand the logic of forcing women back into work after 2-4 weeks. Its just not beneficial for anyone. The mum is utterly frazzled. The employer gets half an employee back Society is conditioned to think that the only practical way to raise a baby is to give up on work/get live in care. now, to look at it from a "my mum managed, I don't want to undermine the american nuclear family" point of view: Ye…

That doesn't start with the right premise. An employee might be frazzled after a night of partying but nobody advocates for "hangover leave"... I don't understand what the point is in society indulging and encouraging somebody's child-rearing hobby when it doesn't need population growth; moreover given the carbon impact of a first world child and potential supply of immigrants willing to move here, it might want to a…

For the record, I only downvoted after I read the smug self-satisfied edit, and only then because discussing your fake internet points is exceedingly boring (not to mention violates the site guidelines).

Re: Without parental leave I might be dead

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Is there any indication it actually requires continued growth to break even? Given average salary where I am and roughly average tax rate, a typical household with two working adults is going to pay somewhere in the neighbourhood of $2m in tax over their working life. Paying 3% of that back to them is not going to break the bank. There are other programs vying for their tax dollars, but I can't see any inherent reaso…

I see what you're saying, but parental leave is a direct cost, but there are subsidiary costs, such as the lost productivity as well as the lifetime resources to raise the newly born child that require more people to subsidize. If a child were something that required no ongoing resources to provide for, then yeah I'd agree with you. That being said I didn't really properly articulate that, so the way I described it I…

The benefit side of that equation is the perpetuation of human society, so it’s worth some investment. Humans and economies aren’t cost minimizers, they’re utility maximizers.

Re: Without parental leave I might be dead

#176
post #70

My first child is due January. I sat down with my boss about a month or so ago and told him I'm intending to take parental leave. "No problem" he said, I told him my intention was to take the full 8 weeks I'm entitled to. He didn't say anything right away to that... eventually it was more of a "...that's not typical for the guys around here" We did a bit of back and forth. (I think he went to HR to find out he can't…

Without knowing your company in detail, based on what you describe and general business practices, I'd be willing to bet that they'd fire you in no time if you ever stopped providing value for them. So why be loyal at all? 8 weeks is crumbs, and you even had to fight for that. I mean if you've been a solid employee for X years, briefly asking for a bit of time off for a life changing event should be absolutely fine,…

It's a business relationship so I don't see why "they'd fire you in no time if you stopped providing value" is always thrown around as a negative. Of course that's the case. You'd stopped working in no time if they stopped providing value to you too. As it should be, from both sides.

You can have loyalty and still understand that there's a social/informal contract in place (and maybe a formal one in some places).

Re: Without parental leave I might be dead

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post #120

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According to [1] USA is 86th in the world according to unemployment. Most of the countries with lower unemployment than USA have paid paternity leave. Please stop cherry-picking, you're not fooling anyone. 120 counties in the world have paid maternity leave, often about a year or more of it. That includes countries with higher standards of living than USA. [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_unempl…

Everything is on the margin. All else being equal, providing a large benefit that's most likely to be exercised by one type of worker will discourage employers from hiring that type of worker. This shouldn't be complicated or controversial. It's basic incentives.

Perhaps you are artificially limiting the scope of what incentives/disincentives exist with regard to parental leave such that your ideological model is maintained. There certainly seems to be a significant amount of evidence to suggest your fears are unfounded.

Re: Without parental leave I might be dead

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People don’t have to have children. And people can and do stay at home with their children at all income levels.

> People don’t have to have children. Ah, here we go. This is a veiled "only people who have enough money should have children" argument. > And people can and do stay at home with their children at all income levels. I am sure that disproportionately favors certain income levels.

Didn’t you hear? Children are a consumer good now.

Re: Without parental leave I might be dead

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If irresponsibility becomes the norm, then it ceases to be an individual personal failing to be scolded for, and is instead a systemic societal issue that should be addressed.

I agree that it is a problem and should be addressed.

Agreeing with parent here is in conflict with your original point. Your original point is that poor people are in that position because they're bad with money and make bad financial choices. Parent is asserting that it's a systemic issue that is unrelated to individual financial responsibility. These positions are incompatible.
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