I really cant understand the logic of forcing women back into work after 2-4 weeks. Its just not beneficial for anyone. The mum is utterly frazzled. The employer gets half an employee back Society is conditioned to think that the only practical way to raise a baby is to give up on work/get live in care. now, to look at it from a "my mum managed, I don't want to undermine the american nuclear family" point of view: Ye…
> Given that _every_ other "civilised" country has some sort of rudimentary care for new parents, which doesn't acutally cost that much, I can't see any reasonable objection to not having it. Giving a special benefit that will for the most part only be exercised by women discourages hiring women. You can still think its worth it, but don't pretend like you're baffled by anyone who would object or question how this im…
Without parental leave I might be dead
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#172I believe parental leave should be provided, but I don't see how anyone expects employers to shoulder the burden of providing paid parental (in reality maternity) leave without an implicit bias towards hiring men (or at least paying women less). You can provide the same benefit to men and women, but let's be honest, even when available most men take only a fraction of the allowed time. I guess you can force people to…
Have you asked any actual women about that?
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#173Earlier quoted context omitted.
> not using their time well for making money. you've not worked in retail have you?
I have never worked in retail. I have only made money from programming.
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#174I really cant understand the logic of forcing women back into work after 2-4 weeks. Its just not beneficial for anyone. The mum is utterly frazzled. The employer gets half an employee back Society is conditioned to think that the only practical way to raise a baby is to give up on work/get live in care. now, to look at it from a "my mum managed, I don't want to undermine the american nuclear family" point of view: Ye…
That doesn't start with the right premise. An employee might be frazzled after a night of partying but nobody advocates for "hangover leave"... I don't understand what the point is in society indulging and encouraging somebody's child-rearing hobby when it doesn't need population growth; moreover given the carbon impact of a first world child and potential supply of immigrants willing to move here, it might want to a…
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#175Earlier quoted context omitted.
Is there any indication it actually requires continued growth to break even? Given average salary where I am and roughly average tax rate, a typical household with two working adults is going to pay somewhere in the neighbourhood of $2m in tax over their working life. Paying 3% of that back to them is not going to break the bank. There are other programs vying for their tax dollars, but I can't see any inherent reaso…
I see what you're saying, but parental leave is a direct cost, but there are subsidiary costs, such as the lost productivity as well as the lifetime resources to raise the newly born child that require more people to subsidize. If a child were something that required no ongoing resources to provide for, then yeah I'd agree with you. That being said I didn't really properly articulate that, so the way I described it I…
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#176My first child is due January. I sat down with my boss about a month or so ago and told him I'm intending to take parental leave. "No problem" he said, I told him my intention was to take the full 8 weeks I'm entitled to. He didn't say anything right away to that... eventually it was more of a "...that's not typical for the guys around here" We did a bit of back and forth. (I think he went to HR to find out he can't…
Without knowing your company in detail, based on what you describe and general business practices, I'd be willing to bet that they'd fire you in no time if you ever stopped providing value for them. So why be loyal at all? 8 weeks is crumbs, and you even had to fight for that. I mean if you've been a solid employee for X years, briefly asking for a bit of time off for a life changing event should be absolutely fine,…
You can have loyalty and still understand that there's a social/informal contract in place (and maybe a formal one in some places).
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#177Earlier quoted context omitted.
According to [1] USA is 86th in the world according to unemployment. Most of the countries with lower unemployment than USA have paid paternity leave. Please stop cherry-picking, you're not fooling anyone. 120 counties in the world have paid maternity leave, often about a year or more of it. That includes countries with higher standards of living than USA. [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_unempl…
Everything is on the margin. All else being equal, providing a large benefit that's most likely to be exercised by one type of worker will discourage employers from hiring that type of worker. This shouldn't be complicated or controversial. It's basic incentives.
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#179Earlier quoted context omitted.
People don’t have to have children. And people can and do stay at home with their children at all income levels.
> People don’t have to have children. Ah, here we go. This is a veiled "only people who have enough money should have children" argument. > And people can and do stay at home with their children at all income levels. I am sure that disproportionately favors certain income levels.
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If irresponsibility becomes the norm, then it ceases to be an individual personal failing to be scolded for, and is instead a systemic societal issue that should be addressed.
I agree that it is a problem and should be addressed.