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> realizing it was never going to work how I liked. > You can't have it all with the mouse no matter your settings > so I went back to just using the cursor to move things around. These tools (vim, tmux, etc.) work great for mouseless setups. If you can get comfortable with a 100% keyboard control paradigm, it might work for you. I realize this might not be what you want, but if the statement "spend less time moving…
My biggest problem with "mouseless tmux" was copy-paste. How do you deal with that?
For copying text I just hold down shift before click-selecting. Works fine. But if you need to select a long bit of text which scrolls beyond the screen then I use scp or rsync