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Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by qzx_pierri »

hombre_fatal wrote: post #142
mabermoske wrote: post #138

If I look at who I know that is still using fb it is almost exclusively older people. I'm 33 and deleted my fb account, almost every person I know younger than me either did the same or was never on in the first place. I see this being huge for older adults who are divorced or widowed, those are the people still using fb and I think would be happy to use this service.

Counter-anecdote: I'm 30 and have yet to meet someone in my dating/friend range (20-35) that never had Facebook here in Mexico or home in Austin. I'd be curious if you're socializing in some sort of anti-FB bubble or actually have a sample size of like 5 people when you consider the people you actually know this info about.

I agree with you. I'm in my 20s, and I know a lot of people who still use Facebook -- Although my little sister may have something different to say (she's 17).

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by sterlind »

some_furry wrote: post #128
msoad wrote: post #49

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think this is an "old people's thinking" perspective. Younger generation are way more open about their dating life than us. They openly talk about their dating life at work or friends group. They don't mind getting matched with a coworker or classmate.

> Younger generation are way more open about their dating life than us. They openly talk about their dating life at work or friends group. They don't mind getting matched with a coworker or classmate. Being young and LGBTQIA+, I can assure you that I never discuss my dating life at work or with my relatives (none of whom know I'm gay, but thankfully, I don't live with them anymore). Until there are strict federal ant…

OkCupid's "hide my profile from straight people" feature is fantastic for exactly this reason. Pity the site's fallen out of favor, it's the one dating app I felt comfortable with.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by Polyisoprene »

mabermoske wrote: post #138

If I look at who I know that is still using fb it is almost exclusively older people. I'm 33 and deleted my fb account, almost every person I know younger than me either did the same or was never on in the first place. I see this being huge for older adults who are divorced or widowed, those are the people still using fb and I think would be happy to use this service.

Young people still have Instagram, so I guess Instadate would have been better :)

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by b_tterc_p »

It sounds to me like a primary use case of this would be... cheating...

Unlike other dating platforms, this one is integrated with your supposedly up to date profile. Being able to set up a low risk secret crush with a known friend seems likely to be popular to those interested in doing so.

That is to say, a person who wants to cheat has no problem having a Facebook profile, so there’s not a need for anonymity against being found by known acquaintances like you might expect on other platforms.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by ocdtrekkie »

JorgeGT wrote: post #30
estsauver wrote: post #16

I think this might be a (relatively) rare strategy error for Facebook. If the success of Snapchat, LinkedIn, and also the separate WhatsApp/Instagram properties proves anything, it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large. If I was facebook, I would very explicitly announce this as a spin out project, under a diff…

From their privacy page, interesting bit: You can also choose how you want to present yourself to potential matches, like whether you provide different information than you have on your Facebook profile

There are definitely upsides to this, like being able to put your general geographic area than your exact town which you might have on Facebook, for instance. But I'm curious also if it is usable to be downright dishonest.

For one, I think people will be less willing to lie in a form where one company can see both profiles, but on the other side, it comes down to what Facebook lets you change. Hopefully they won't let your profile specify two different ages, for instance.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by passivepinetree »

jonnycomputer wrote: post #112
galfarragem wrote: post #88

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> Just because I go out on a date with someone doesn't mean I want to be friends with them on Facebook. That's true for casual dating. By the other hand on older demographics, I think they nailed it: I suspect among older people, casual dating is less relevant, so they are not afraid of adding eachother as friends. And they don't need to install anything else..

The ad's photograph isn't targeted at older people.

That's a common mistake. Ads don't always (and you could argue rarely) show their target demographic.

Easy example: ever seen an overweight person in a fast food commercial?

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by AnIdiotOnTheNet »

smacktoward wrote: post #66
gtirloni wrote: post #36

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> I and others don't want to use Facebook. Please don't leave us with no choice What? You don't want to use then don't use it. That's your choice.

Literally the entire lesson of the social networking age is that it's not entirely your choice. If everyone you know is on Facebook, and everyone you want to date is on Facebook, all the events you want to attend are organized on Facebook, etc., you have very strong pressures on you to use Facebook, whether you want to or not.

Pressures are not the same as force. Like all other choices in life, there are trade-offs. For some, the things Facebook gives them mean more to them than whatever reason they don't want to use Facebook, for others they don't.

It's a bit like saying you'd like to stop eating veal, but you're forced to keep eating it because it's so tasty.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by asdfman123 »

estsauver wrote: post #16

I think this might be a (relatively) rare strategy error for Facebook. If the success of Snapchat, LinkedIn, and also the separate WhatsApp/Instagram properties proves anything, it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large. If I was facebook, I would very explicitly announce this as a spin out project, under a diff…

> it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large

I think Facebook's goal is to make it so that you have one persona you show to everyone. To me, that seems like a cultural thing unique to Silicon Valley that the rest of the world does not necessarily want.

It seems like a mistake. If you have one persona, that means that you need to optimize that persona for your career and ironically it feels more stiflingly conformist. Just my personal feelings on the matter, though. I'm not trying to call out anyone who likes that way of life (and perhaps has a personality that's well suited for it), just that it should not be imposed on everyone.

I kind of like the old model where you pretend to be conservative at work, and are free to be as weird as you want to in your own time.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by dmux »

magduf wrote: post #63
peterwwillis wrote: post #15

It doesn't seem to do anything that a normal "Dating" app does. It's just a private friends list. You can already like and message people you have a crush on, without this. Who is this for? "Secret Crush lets you match with people you already know on Facebook and/or Instagram." Because what people have been clamoring for is to know which of their friends like them more than is mutual, so they can feel weird. "You can…

>Because what people have been clamoring for is to know which of their friends like them more than is mutual, so they can feel weird. I haven't read the article, but I'm guessing this is probably a typical 2-way match algorithm, or else it really doesn't make sense. i.e., both friends have to put the other in their "secret crush" list for it to inform them that they have a crush on each other. What they really need i…

I remember there being a similar 2-way matching "app" based on your FB friends back in 2009 or so. People gamed the system by adding their entire friends list.
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