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6 Women Accuse Tech VC Justin Caldbeck of Sexual Assault and Harassment

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Re: 6 Women Accuse Tech VC Justin Caldbeck of Sexual Assault and Harassment

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What follows is a statement that Caldbeck provided to Axios this afternoon. "The past 24 hours have been the darkest of my life. I have made many mistakes over the course of my career, some of which were brought to light this week. To say I'm sorry about my behavior is a categorical understatement. Still, I need to say it: I am so, so sorry. I direct my apology first to those women who I've made feel uncomfortable in…

Im so, so sorry I got caught. It has been a difficult experience for me.

I would have liked to see more respect given to the victims rather than telling us how difficult getting caught has been for him.

Re: 6 Women Accuse Tech VC Justin Caldbeck of Sexual Assault and Harassment

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In this case it's more of a "he said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said".

When it involves rich or powerful people, the ability to get many she-said's becomes easier. I know this is an unpopular opinion, but due process exists for a reason. We should reserve judgement until the investigation progresses further.

Due process is for legal repercussions. The court of public opinion can, and does, operate under a lower bar.

Re: 6 Women Accuse Tech VC Justin Caldbeck of Sexual Assault and Harassment

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The firm claims he didn't do anything illegal. He hasn't copped up to the assaults, and since they were not employees, the texts may not necessarily have been illegal. Not entirely contradictory.

Their statement says that any claims or reports that Caldbeck did anything "inappropriate" with women were "false". That ship sailed with Caldbeck's most recent statement.

Oh! Sorry - I missed that part at the beginning.

Re: 6 Women Accuse Tech VC Justin Caldbeck of Sexual Assault and Harassment

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Right, I read that, but is it necessary to be publicly on the record? Couldn't the information be privately confirmed, protecting the women from retaliation and still allowing the case/accusation to move forward? It just seems like an unnecessary risk/vulnerability. Of course, there's also the fact that by going on the record you also encourage others to do the same, which is an immeasurable benefit.

I am one of the three women who went on the record with my name: Niniane Wang. I initially asked to be anonymous, but no reporter would publish unless they had named sources. I knew that Justin was continuing to harass women. Using my name was the only way to stop him. In other words, yes, it was necessary to be publicly on the record.

This must have been very difficult decision to come forward. Thanks!

Re: 6 Women Accuse Tech VC Justin Caldbeck of Sexual Assault and Harassment

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It's not just power. Men and women have somewhat different distributions of personalities. Women, on average, are more willing to try to smooth things over rather than engage in explicit conflict. If you flip the genders, then on average, abuse of power will cause outright conflict sooner rather than after it has built up to completely unacceptable levels.

I'm a woman. I feel strongly that it is nigh impossible to clearly determine how much of gender difference is really due to innate biological tendencies and how much is due to social crap shaping the genders differently. A cousin of mine commented on being a Navy recruiter and calling his wife to come sit at the office because of teenaged girls showing up at the recruiting office and trying to hang on him. He was ver…

> I really think it is far more complicated than most people want to believe.

So do I, and thanks for bringing some balance to the discussion. I noticed Mr. Calbeck's apology makes it sound like the situation is simple and not complicated.

Re: 6 Women Accuse Tech VC Justin Caldbeck of Sexual Assault and Harassment

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Really glad to see people like this getting called out. Dealing with sexual harassment/assault from someone in power is the last thing you want as a female founder - you have a million other things you need to do to keep your startup afloat, and you don't want to rock the boat if it affects your likelihood of being funded. Feels like the valley is slowly but surely changing. And yes, I recognize that this hasn't been…

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Re: 6 Women Accuse Tech VC Justin Caldbeck of Sexual Assault and Harassment

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This statement is much more in line with Caldbeck's initial statement: > Obviously, I am deeply disturbed by these allegations. While significant context is missing from the incidents reported by The Information, I deeply regret ever causing anyone to feel uncomfortable. The fact is that I have been privileged to have worked with female entrepreneurs throughout my career and I sincerely apologize to anyone who I made…

Caldbeck appears to have contradicted the firm's claim, harming their own credibility.

Compare this to Sequoia Capital's swift and decisive public response when one of their partners was accused to personal impropriety. https://twitter.com/sequoia/status/708549364428316672

Re: 6 Women Accuse Tech VC Justin Caldbeck of Sexual Assault and Harassment

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That is not the point. There are two ways to view the problem: it is either a women's problem, or a people problem that dissproportionantly affects women. By framing it as a womens problem, you are turning it into an issue of identity politics, with all the pros and cons that come with it. (eg, stronger solidarity from the in-group, at the expanse of alienating the out-group, as well as the growing backlash to identi…

Speaking of one group is not ignoring the other. Nobody said that sexual harassment against men is okay. It's okay to recognize that social norms affect the genders asymmetrically and structure language around that.

Engaging in identity politics opens up pandora's box :).

Men have a more difficult time obtaining social, emotional and physical intimacy with other people (in both romantic and platonic contexts). For the purely romantic context, there is a huge disparity in the required effort to obtain intimacy in a romantic relationship.

Women can obtain intimacy and have a very successful romantic life without making any advances at all. A man will have a very unsuccessful romantic life if he never makes any advances.

Society fails men on the social/physical/emotional intimacy front.

These are natural, primal needs have huge consequences on happiness. This lack of intimacy naturally causes men to seek intimacy in sometimes inappropriate contexts and situations.

Since a large cause of the behavior is the failing of society, it may be prudent to give higher leniency to men for these situations. The intimacy gap should at least be acknowledged whenever identity politics are brought up in these situations.

Re: 6 Women Accuse Tech VC Justin Caldbeck of Sexual Assault and Harassment

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I understand, and being ignored is okay. If someone affected by them sees this, they may feel empowered to step forward. I'd feel wrong putting names, situations, etc. out there, but the fact of the matter is, this isn't the end of this drama.

>"I'd feel wrong putting names, situations, etc. out there" Isn't that what you just did with Jonathon Teo though?

I mean of the victims...
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