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Dad brains: How fatherhood rewires the male mind

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Re: Dad brains: How fatherhood rewires the male mind

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Post by JKCalhoun »

tsoukase wrote: post #127

Starting from marriage, men are changing to the less manly direction. But there is a confounding factor: higher testosterone level or sensitivity causes specific distance from family care, so it stays high longer. Personally, I experienced a 10% drop in my 1rep max in squat after each of my two children.

"Starting from marriage, men are changing to the less manly direction."

Ha ha, I started perhaps already farther on the Femine spectrum such that marriage pulled me more toward the "Masculine" end—feeling now obliged to "win the bread" for another.

(When it was just me I could indulge all my selfish, artistic whims…)

Re: Dad brains: How fatherhood rewires the male mind

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Post by valianteffort »

e40 wrote: post #137
syntaxing wrote: post #21

> And the men that had spent longer looking after babies showed the largest drops in testosterone. Those that shared a bed with their infants also had lower levels. Dad here. Maybe…it’s the lack of sleep? Involved fathers tend to have less sleep.

Evolutionarily this makes sense. Lower testosterone means less carousing, and better fatherhood.

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Re: Dad brains: How fatherhood rewires the male mind

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Post by anthk »

the_gipsy wrote: post #48
pfannkuchen wrote: post #33

Earlier quoted context omitted.

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But for women it's natural? How convenient

Sorry if I burst yor bubble, but there are hormonal differences. Women will respond better at looking out for things and multitasking and men will do better for long focusing tasks.

In Spanish (your browser will automatically translate it for you):

https://jorlab.blogspot.com/2002/10/hormonalmente-orientados...

Re: Dad brains: How fatherhood rewires the male mind

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Post by dlenski »

tasuki wrote: post #142
dlenski wrote: post #86

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> I also have been surprised by how fun fatherhood is. Same here. My son is approaching two, and he's a blast. He can be tiring, he can be a big ol’ mess, but he's never boring . He's healthy and he eats well and he's a good sleeper, so he doesn't give us much to worry about. He charms everyone he meets, he explores everything, and every day is just a fireworks show of new delights and discoveries. I go on a business…

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Uh…? That's not my life at all.

I work from home 95% of the time, with most of my colleagues a continent away. So I'm definitely home and present in my son's life nearly all the time, probably more so than many parents given that I don't have any time occupied by a daily commute.

Re: Dad brains: How fatherhood rewires the male mind

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Post by GoodJokes »

JKCalhoun wrote: post #143
roody15 wrote: post #3

As a father of 3 daughters now approaching 50 with my oldest now 24 … I will say that I believe some of this is true. Perhaps it is just the life altering effect of raising children or maybe is biological as well. You can definitely pickup on whether another male is a father or not.

"As a father of 3 daughters now approaching 50 with my oldest now 24…" You and I are akin (I waited a decade longer to start a family though.) I definitely see my life as divided between before and after having had kids. I mean that's pretty obvious—and you can find any other big event in life and make that claim. But for me there has been nothing more dramatic to have redirected my own life. To the point that (and t…

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Re: Dad brains: How fatherhood rewires the male mind

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Post by tsoukase »

worthless-trash wrote: post #128
tsoukase wrote: post #127

Starting from marriage, men are changing to the less manly direction. But there is a confounding factor: higher testosterone level or sensitivity causes specific distance from family care, so it stays high longer. Personally, I experienced a 10% drop in my 1rep max in squat after each of my two children.

Yah. But did you skip leg day to take your lady to the hospital ?

At those two days I skipped it, but the rest I trained at the squat rack in my basement after every night feed of them.

Re: Dad brains: How fatherhood rewires the male mind

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Post by tsoukase »

JKCalhoun wrote: post #161
tsoukase wrote: post #127

Starting from marriage, men are changing to the less manly direction. But there is a confounding factor: higher testosterone level or sensitivity causes specific distance from family care, so it stays high longer. Personally, I experienced a 10% drop in my 1rep max in squat after each of my two children.

"Starting from marriage, men are changing to the less manly direction." Ha ha, I started perhaps already farther on the Femine spectrum such that marriage pulled me more toward the "Masculine" end—feeling now obliged to "win the bread" for another. (When it was just me I could indulge all my selfish, artistic whims…)

That behaviour was probably more due to psycho-social reasons that biological which regressed, but sure the net effect pushed you more to the one pole.

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Post by the_gipsy »

anthk wrote: post #163
the_gipsy wrote: post #48

Earlier quoted context omitted.

But for women it's natural? How convenient

Sorry if I burst yor bubble, but there are hormonal differences. Women will respond better at looking out for things and multitasking and men will do better for long focusing tasks. In Spanish (your browser will automatically translate it for you): https://jorlab.blogspot.com/2002/10/hormonalmente-orientados...

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Re: Dad brains: How fatherhood rewires the male mind

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Post by joemazerino »

syntaxing wrote: post #21

> And the men that had spent longer looking after babies showed the largest drops in testosterone. Those that shared a bed with their infants also had lower levels. Dad here. Maybe…it’s the lack of sleep? Involved fathers tend to have less sleep.

On the right line. Lower sleep, higher coping (bad diet, alcohol etc) would lead to T destruction. Not surprised BBC didn't connect the dots here.
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