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Re: Take something you don’t like and try to like it

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Post by fluoridation »

noman-land wrote: post #109

I make it a point to retry foods I "don't like" at least once a year to confirm if I still don't like them. More often than not, that experience alone gets me to like the thing. Liking things is more fun than not liking things. Why wouldn't I want to move as many things as I can in my life from the dislike bucket to the like bucket?

To be honest, for any given thing, liking or disliking it seems pretty inconsequential. Ideally, you would like the things you can't avoid, and dislike the things you can't get. Everything else doesn't really matter too much.

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Post by xoqem »

vova_hn wrote: post #157

> On planes, the captain will often invite you to, “sit back and enjoy the ride”. This is confusing. Enjoy the ride? Enjoy being trapped in a pressurized tube and jostled by all the passengers lining up to relieve themselves because your company decided to cram in a few more seats instead of having an adequate number of toilets? Aren’t flights supposed to be endured? Wait, is liking to fly actually that unusual?

I had this same reaction! All of the process of getting to and from the airport, and through security, etc, isn't my favorite. But once we're actually flying, I find the ride itself kind of soothing.

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Post by zwnow »

carlosjobim wrote: post #113
zwnow wrote: post #21

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Long time depression, father dead at 15, half of family dead since, possibly adhd, moved places like 8 times, poor (thankfully no debt), balding, never had a relationship, constant anger due to the stupidity of other people (when reading comments on news articles as an example), and and and...

I've met several people in my life that are like you, at least from what it sounds like in the description you give. Constantly anger and bitter. Probably for good reason, at least initially. And these people were smart people, hard working, honest. But here's the secret: If you behave like this, then people will only interact with you when they want something from you, leading to an even more bitterness and unfriend…

This advice basically is "be fake and people will eventually like you" which is one of the reasons im constantly pissed off about other people. I respect authenticity and I do not need people in my life preferring a version of me that's not authentic. Im content with being alone a lot, its preferable for me to having a lot of acquaintances. I have a good circle of friends which is enough.

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Post by Podrod »

carlosjobim wrote: post #98
spauldo wrote: post #50

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I don't believe that most people's dislike of churches stem from the architecture.

Of course it is mainly from the architecture. When a person who is mentally base sees something which is impressive and beautiful, they are filled with resentment and hate. Even more if it was constructed by people from the past which he thinks he is supposed to be much superior to.

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Re: Take something you don’t like and try to like it

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Post by Podrod »

carlosjobim wrote: post #144
rsynnott wrote: post #143

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Absolutely deranged point of view. Seriously, if you actually _believe_ this, consider examining it carefully. It is self-serving nonsense.

Deranged is of course to hate and resent something because it is beautiful or because it is impressive. Or someone.

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Re: Take something you don’t like and try to like it

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Post by unwind »

kelseydh wrote: post #156
cmpalmer52 wrote: post #138

I tried salted licorice. Granted, I don’t really like sweet licorice, or anise, or fennel, or any of the liquors that use that flavoring, but I tolerate them. The salted licorice was the worst thing I’d ever tasted. So I bought a whole bag of it and ate a piece every day or so. After a week, I wasn’t cringing as much. After two or three weeks I started craving it. By the end of the month, I liked it. I don’t love it,…

When I was young I had a weird cognitive bias where I would think that if something tasted curious or different, that it must be good for you in some way. E.g. the odd taste of licorice. Must mean that it was healthy or good right? Turns out licorice really isn't good for you. https://www.heart.org/en/news/2022/10/28/black-licorice-is-a...

How to know that an article about licorice is from the US: they include the "black" qualifier. As if there were any other kind! To me (Swedish) the normal/expected qualifier is "sweet" (yes please) or "salty" (oh yes indeed thank you very much).

The concept of "red licorice" [1] is simply ... foreign. :) It's also fun and interesting as a word/food, since it focuses on the texture of a food and re-uses the word, even though the word is tightly coupled to the flavor.

[1]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Liquorice_(confectionery)#Red_...

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Post by Quizzical4230 »

cardanome wrote: post #100
trentnix wrote: post #16

As a compulsive, I have the problem of liking too many things. I don’t drink coffee because in a month I’ll be neck deep in forums about the proper way to grind beans. I don’t own an aquarium because I’ll be obsessively learning about perfect water pH for the most exotic fish. I don’t drink hot tea because I’ll be studying growth patterns and how seasonality affects leaves and their flavor. I don’t drink beer because…

As someone with ADHD, for me obsessing over something to the point of needing to be reminded to eat and drink is actually extremely healthy. It took me a long time to accept that following my special interests is what my brain craves and what gives me a sense of fulfillment. It might be unhealthy for a neurotypical person but very healthy for me. In fact when I am losing the spark and just can't get into anything tha…

While I enjoy (and crave) the waves (of time) that make my brain obsess over things which bring me immense joy to the point I neglect essentials (food and water), what follows is a hard learned crash where I have no energy (or dopamine) left to give to anything!

Re: Take something you don’t like and try to like it

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Post by taffronaut »

tomjen3 wrote: post #64
palata wrote: post #30

Many things need to be understood to be appreciated. For instance music: we tend to like what we know, and what we know is what we hear on the radio/everywhere we go. When people tell me they don't like jazz, I always find a jazz song they like. If they say they don't like rap music, I can always find one they like. Why? Maybe because it's closer to what they already understand (making it more accessible), or maybe i…

I would have said no on Rap before Hamilton. I would like to know your goto for Jazz.

Most posts here seem to be offering easy on-ramp listening for jazz, but they seem at odds with the spirit of the original post. For jazz that is off-putting at first listening but rewards deeper study, consider Thelonious Monk (Blue Note sessions 1 & 2) or if you are really up for it, Coltrane's Interstellar Space.
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