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>is that a failure of the async model This, 100%. Being really generous, it can be called a leaky model which is poorly compatible with completion-based APIs.
The leaky model is that you could ever receive into a stack buffer and you're arguing to persist this model. The reason it's leaky is that copying memory around is supremely expensive. But that's how the BSD socket API from the 90s works and btw something you can make work with async provided you're into memory copies. io_uring is a modern API that's for performance and that's why Rust libraries try to avoid memory c…
Okay, but what about writes? If I have a memory region that I want io_uring to write, it's a major pain in the ass to manage the lifetime of objects in that region in a safe way. My choices are basically: manually manage the lifetime and only allow it to be dropped when I see a completion show up (this is what most everything does now, and it's a) hard to get right and b) limited in many ways, e.g. it's heap-only), or permanently leak that memory as unusable.