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Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?

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#161

I've longed to kill myself for as far back as I can remember and I regret not having done so already. If I could change anything in history, I would chose to have never been born at all.

Friend, suicide is never the answer.

I followed your profile and believe I found your github. You have hundreds of repos and hundreds of stars? You're a rockstar and humanity would be at a loss to lose you.

Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?

#162
Kinda trivial but: Neglecting my upper body strength when I was much younger. Just to have more of a "reserve" against injury and for when I get older and start losing it naturally. This is something I've mentioned to both of my kids.

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#163
Don't stop doing something you enjoy, thinking there's time to pick it up again later. I played badminton a lot in my teens and loved it. Then I went to uni and didn't continue with it, moved around the world, and every move would casually think "wonder if there's a badminton club around". Now I've finally started playing again and the first thing I did was get an injury because I tried to play like a thin, fit 18 year old in the body of an overweight 39 year old. But I still love it and can't help regret 20 years of being too lazy to just look up a club and go.

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#165

Focused too much on making a living in my teens and 20s instead of college and social life. Never pursued artistic interests seriously because I was just too tired from working and stressing out about bills. Now I’m in my 30s with next to no social life and the realization that I’ve wasted away my time and whatever little talent I have. There’s a “regret” folder sitting in my Google Drive with two half-finished books…

Dude, spaceman_2020, you are young a.f. still. There are predicaments and Chinese finger traps much much worse still. Here is your quote of the day:

https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/6495956-for-what-it-s-worth...

Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?

#166

I don't really "believe" in regret. At each and every point in my life, I was working with the information I had at my disposal, each information having its own "weight" in my mind. Every mistake I've made has brought some information in my mind that wouldn't have been brought otherwise. Fantasies of "changing the past" are seductive, but ultimately pointless. The only way I could justify having regrets, is reminding…

Let's say you have two advisors constantly giving you advice about what action to take next, and all you ever do is choose between them. Over time you might learn that one of them gives better advice in some situations and the other gives better advice in others. In this weird hypothetical, regret is noticing that you followed the advice of the wrong advisor for the situation, and it turned out especially poorly.

What's going on in your brain is a lot more complicated than this, but I think it's still a meaningful concept?

Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?

#167

Focused too much on making a living in my teens and 20s instead of college and social life. Never pursued artistic interests seriously because I was just too tired from working and stressing out about bills. Now I’m in my 30s with next to no social life and the realization that I’ve wasted away my time and whatever little talent I have. There’s a “regret” folder sitting in my Google Drive with two half-finished books…

It's probably the average situation for most people.

In their 30s, most average people are busy with kids and work and have little time to socialize.

But eventually they will reunite with their lifelong friends and make videos like these: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4g3OT7w1u5s (I have no affiliation with those people)

Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?

#169

I've longed to kill myself for as far back as I can remember and I regret not having done so already. If I could change anything in history, I would chose to have never been born at all.

Do you need anything right now? If so, write me an email and let's chat. I'm sorry you are feeling this way, I can identify, sometimes.

Re: Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret?

#170

I don't really "believe" in regret. At each and every point in my life, I was working with the information I had at my disposal, each information having its own "weight" in my mind. Every mistake I've made has brought some information in my mind that wouldn't have been brought otherwise. Fantasies of "changing the past" are seductive, but ultimately pointless. The only way I could justify having regrets, is reminding…

Regret, like everything else, is an evolutionary corollary built out of destiny optimization that allows for counterfactual consideration of painful paths to avoid similar outcomes in the future. In the end, what physics decrees shall occur shall occur and the only thing we can do in those times of war is burn down the ships behind us and continue charging forward in this strange yet charming universe we find ourselves shackled within.

In the end, we must imagine Sisyphus—the final mirror—happy.

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