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After reading through the post on notion, I found it "impressive" that OP has dated with so many toxic persons over years. Is this normal? Or is OP self an outlier to have had so many toxic relationships?
1) be pseudonymous. People in my real life don't need to know what I do on the internet. Not like I'm doing anything untoward, but I am candidly discussing things with random strangers, including things some might view as beyond discussion, and you don't want some crusade against you for that. Your real life and your internet life don't need to overlap, and 99% of people get no benefit from them overlapping. 2) never…
What makes more sense? Some dude has been creepy and only showed the positive side in his defense, or three random unrelated women -- who he claims only ever had lovely, adoring exchanges with him -- decided to destroy his life for no apparent reason.
I mean, the former case has a precedent for happening almost habitually in the past, you'd have to be willfully ignorant to ignore the context of the last several decades. EDIT: Not saying he's guilty, but I'm also not pretending we don't live in a world where institutions perpetuate and erase abuse.
But the latter case deserves a response by the accusers. Unfortunately, if some guy walks up to a woman at an event and acts creepy, this demands that a woman record every moment of her life in case she has to defend herself if she calls him out...
EDIT: Watching the points on this comment swing from negative to positive in the span of minutes is telling.
From the linked Notion "Receipts" page: > I've struggled to understand why so many people have piled on to these absurd accusations without facts. I watched a similar situation play out in real time. A friend had to fire an employee who wasn't submitting work or even responding to communications. The employe retaliated by using their moderately large social media presence to disparage my friend and her company. Stran…
> I was stunned at how someone with zero evidence and an obvious axe to grind could rally such disdain for someone else with little more than a few unsubstantiated social media posts. I feel that this is due to the weird place victimization occupies in our culture combined with how anti-social social media is. It's extremely easy to issue accusations and threats and have them be read by literally millions of people.…
This nearly always advantages businesses and the wealthy, especially in false or ambiguous situations, and whistleblowers of all kinds. Litigation is incredibly expensive and slow. Do people really want to spend a house worth and several years on this kind of fight?
(This is why the US felt it necessary to pass laws against UK libel judgements being enforced, it was infringing on US standards of free speech)
Guess this is a reminder why you shouldn't stick your dick in crazy. But imagine having to deal with someone like this after already getting married to them.
Earlier quoted context omitted.
This is sometimes easier said than done. I've always tried to keep my social media presence far away from my real name, but a few years back I went to a job interview and one of the first questions they asked me was about my Twitch channel. I didn't have any major following, it's mostly just a couple of friends and I will start a stream so my buddies can watch and we can chat about the game. We had been doing that fo…
Did they talk to your friends as references before the interview? Perhaps one of your friends casually mentioned it, without even meaning any harm.
I don't remember for certain, it was a few years ago. It's unlikely though. I don't give references by default and I am almost never asked for them. I don't recall if they asked for them, but I don't think so.
Also the overlap of people who I share my online activity with and people I would use as professional references is extremely small. Maybe literally one person.
It is probably something very small like accidentally linking an email address to an account I shouldn't have.
I wouldn't call OP's post "receipts", but rather "his curated receipts." What makes more sense? Some dude has been creepy and only showed the positive side in his defense, or three random unrelated women -- who he claims only ever had lovely, adoring exchanges with him -- decided to destroy his life for no apparent reason. I mean, the former case has a precedent for happening almost habitually in the past, you'd have…
If this is the bar for unacceptable discourse between men and women, without being a mind-reader, I'm not really sure how one is ever supposed to win.
[1] https://www.notion.so/image/https%3A%2F%2Fs3-us-west-2.amazo...
