Tips for a Better Life • Hacker News Board

Re: Tips for a Better Life

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Post by gruez » Thu, Dec 24, 2020, 12:56 AM UTC

throwaway0a5e wrote: post #103

duckmysick wrote: post #92

Earlier quoted context omitted.

What would be a better advice?

Google/DDG/Bing it and read some forum threads. Sure you can't get people to spoon feed you answers that way but do you really want to be spoon fed by people who don't actually know anything?

>Google/DDG/Bing it and read some forum threads

and that doesn't have the reddit shill issue?

> Sure you can't get people to spoon feed you answers that way but do you really want to be spoon fed by people who don't actually know anything?

Or you know, people want to spend 10 minutes looking for the best product, rather than spending a few days going down a rabbit hole of their own personal research.

Re: Tips for a Better Life

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Post by pronik » Thu, Dec 24, 2020, 12:57 AM UTC

munificent wrote: post #131

Aaargh20318 wrote: post #93

> 25. History remembers those who got to market first. Getting your creation out into the world is more important than getting it perfect. This is why everyone remembers the MPMan F10 and no one has heard of the iPod. Being the first to get it right is more important than being the first to get to market.

I think it's also important to be precise about what "it" is. Most MP3 players at the time had around an hour's worth of storage. The Creative NOMAD was 64 MB. That means those products were from a user experience perspective in the same category as Walkmen and Minidisc players. It was a writable music player that held about an album. It let you make your own mixtapes, but selecting media while at home was a fundamen…

For what it's worth: Creative Nomad with 64MB was just the first one. The one with 6GB of storage came out about a year before the iPad. Hence the iconic "No wireless, less space than a Nomad. Lame." by CmdrTaco. iPod hadn't won on the storage alone.

Re: Tips for a Better Life

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Post by Caylio » Thu, Dec 24, 2020, 12:58 AM UTC

sullyj3 wrote: post #91

earwaxauditor wrote: post #67

Earlier quoted context omitted.

That’s a bit aggressive, no?

Best not to feed the trolls

You just fed one

Re: Tips for a Better Life

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Post by basicneo » Thu, Dec 24, 2020, 12:59 AM UTC

When taking advice from people, I weigh it by how much I want aspects of their lives

The Lesswrong community live in a narrow rationalist bubble.

Re: Tips for a Better Life

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Post by caturopath » Thu, Dec 24, 2020, 1:03 AM UTC

> “Where is the good knife?” If you’re looking for your good X, you have bad Xs. Throw those out.

Keeping around a couple beater knives is how I have a good knife. I think there's value to the general point, but a lot of the cases where I have variable quality items, it's not for sloppiness.

Re: Tips for a Better Life

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Post by kleer001 » Thu, Dec 24, 2020, 1:05 AM UTC

basicneo wrote: post #164

When taking advice from people, I weigh it by how much I want aspects of their lives The Lesswrong community live in a narrow rationalist bubble.

I got that perspective from hiring an artist (and being hired as an artist). What's the secret? Have what the client wants.

I was looking to get a dog tattoo. So, I looked for a tattoo artist with dogs in the style I wanted in their portfolio.

As a visual effects artist I happened to make some dust in my early features. Since then, after looking at my demo reel, I've gotten hired to make more dust in movies.

Re: Tips for a Better Life

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Post by mark-r » Thu, Dec 24, 2020, 1:09 AM UTC

bonoboTP wrote: post #47

redleggedfrog wrote: post #16

"8. When buying things, time and money trade-off against each other. If you’re low on money, take more time to find deals. If you’re low on time, stop looking for great deals and just buy things quickly online." I'm finding, as I've gotten older, that almost every time I've chosen money over time I've made a bad decision. And I see this among my family and friends, too. There's a mentality that emerges when exchangin…

Some people value that they can get stuff done for themselves. I've grown up helping with various renovations around our home (floor tiling, wallpapers, building kitchen furniture etc), and they are fond memories and it makes a difference to how you feel living in a place. I know today mobility and renting is everything, but there is quite a distinct feel of living in actually your own place that you've worked on ove…

I tried to tile a room in my basement once. Took forever and I only got half done. Hired a professional to finish the job, and it took him less than a day. Then he told me the things I had done wrong.

Re: Tips for a Better Life

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Post by caturopath » Thu, Dec 24, 2020, 1:09 AM UTC

> After a breakup, cease all contact as soon as practical. The potential for drama is endless, and the potential for a good friendship is negligible.

Strange. It's a bit of a red flag if someone is in complete radio silence with all their exes, frankly.

Obviously, you aren't going to enjoy hanging out next week, but I'm surprised you dated enough that there's a "breakup" if you don't enjoy each other enough to have something to salvage.

Re: Tips for a Better Life

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Post by caturopath » Thu, Dec 24, 2020, 1:12 AM UTC

> When dating, de-emphasizing your quirks will lead to 90% of people thinking you’re kind of alright. Emphasizing your quirks will lead to 10% of people thinking you’re fascinating and fun. Those are the people interested in dating you. Aim for them.

I'm all for displaying your blue https://i.pinimg.com/originals/ae/43/79/ae43791d3a1f23e37bdd... , but downplaying quirks on early dates is important. You aren't showing that you don't have quirks, you're showing you are a sensible enough person to know when to air them and when not to.

Re: Tips for a Better Life

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Post by d23 » Thu, Dec 24, 2020, 1:14 AM UTC

> 57. There are two red flags to avoid almost all dangerous people: 1. The perpetually aggrieved ; 2. The angry.

I'm not saying this is wrong, but I do think it's oversimplified and misses a lot. Some of the most dangerous people I've known come across the opposite. Charismatic and sociopathic, they can smile while lying, stealing, cheating, manipulating, and sadistically hurting others for pleasure. The clues for these sorts of people are often more subtle.

The rest of this section (Hazards) are good though. This one in particular:

> 61. It is cheap for people to talk about their values, goals, rules, and lifestyle. When people’s actions contradict their talk, pay attention!

Actions are the real signs that break through the sociopathic facade. Talk can be faked and used to warp perception of reality. Action ultimately requires actually interfacing with reality.