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Re: Thank HN: Five months ago, I was feeling like a loser, now I am opposite

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Post by robochat42 »

sacrosancty wrote: post #19

Just a suggestion, but if your relationship with your wife depends on your personal circumstances and mood, then it sounds not very strong. Might be worth taking advantage of this good period to do some relationship strengthening exercises while you can so that when the next downturn happens, you can both understand each other's and your own feelings better. I'm not talking about random activities like going to the b…

I think that you're missing his point which is that when you are unhappy, it is not always easy to pinpoint the cause of that unhappiness and it is very easy to start casting around for an explanation and end up blaming the wrong part of your life for your misery. You might think that this isn't believable but the unhappiness colours everything in your life and so it isn't as obvious as it seems.

Re: Thank HN: Five months ago, I was feeling like a loser, now I am opposite

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Post by flakyfilibuster »

rattray wrote: post #111

Can't believe the negativity I see on some of the top comments right now. Congrats and thanks for sharing, you rock :) It's really nice to get updates from folks who posted an Ask HN. Especially with a positive outcome. It's really not uncommon for humans to find energizing work energizing, and for that to affect their overall quality of life. Plenty of people are comfortable checking boxes and going home early, sure…

The negativity is totally warranted: OPs misguided believe in thinking that simply finding a new job will get rid of all his woes is worrisome. Furthermore the fact that a high percentage of commentators are encouraging his stance is counterproductive.

This is simplifying a complex situation, which OP should definitely seek professional guidance for before he finds himself in the same situation 5 months from now...

Re: Thank HN: Five months ago, I was feeling like a loser, now I am opposite

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Post by azinman2 »

robochat42 wrote: post #151
sacrosancty wrote: post #19

Just a suggestion, but if your relationship with your wife depends on your personal circumstances and mood, then it sounds not very strong. Might be worth taking advantage of this good period to do some relationship strengthening exercises while you can so that when the next downturn happens, you can both understand each other's and your own feelings better. I'm not talking about random activities like going to the b…

I think that you're missing his point which is that when you are unhappy, it is not always easy to pinpoint the cause of that unhappiness and it is very easy to start casting around for an explanation and end up blaming the wrong part of your life for your misery. You might think that this isn't believable but the unhappiness colours everything in your life and so it isn't as obvious as it seems.

All the more reason to listen to GP. Your partner should be someone to lean on, not blame. They likely don’t see them in the right light.

Re: Thank HN: Five months ago, I was feeling like a loser, now I am opposite

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Post by sam_goody »

corrral wrote: post #77
burrows wrote: post #57

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Because I’ve seen “I wish I had worked less.” on a gravestone?

Yeah, there's typically little or nothing. No meaningful sentiments from the deceased. That's part of what the popular funeral poem "The Dash" plays on—everything that mattered in a life, by the time it's nothing but marks on a stone, is expressed in the distinctly inexpressive dash between the birth and death dates. It's rare to actually put anything about the life on there. "Loving father" or something is usually t…

There are some which are exceptional.

One in Tombstone, AZ (probably the only place people read these) says "We killed him by mistake. Too bad."

There may really be a grave with the poem: "Here lies the body of Richard Weigh, who died defending his right of way. He was right, dead right, as he sped along. And he's just as dead as if he was wrong"

Re: Thank HN: Five months ago, I was feeling like a loser, now I am opposite

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Post by hawkar20 »

flakyfilibuster wrote: post #152
rattray wrote: post #111

Can't believe the negativity I see on some of the top comments right now. Congrats and thanks for sharing, you rock :) It's really nice to get updates from folks who posted an Ask HN. Especially with a positive outcome. It's really not uncommon for humans to find energizing work energizing, and for that to affect their overall quality of life. Plenty of people are comfortable checking boxes and going home early, sure…

The negativity is totally warranted: OPs misguided believe in thinking that simply finding a new job will get rid of all his woes is worrisome. Furthermore the fact that a high percentage of commentators are encouraging his stance is counterproductive. This is simplifying a complex situation, which OP should definitely seek professional guidance for before he finds himself in the same situation 5 months from now...

What is he misguided about, and what is the complexity he is simplifying. I ask out of genuine intrigue. Reading the post it comes across as someone who appeared to need to make a change in his life, unsure of what to change. He took a chance on a new role and has found himself happier for it.

Re: Thank HN: Five months ago, I was feeling like a loser, now I am opposite

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Post by sgtnoodle »

ac2022 wrote: post #120
d23 wrote: post #88

Congrats! I'm happy for you. Funny how being more engaged and working more can leave you with more energy at the end of the day. I've felt the same way in the past.

Yes, it is amazing. They say Heart Rate Variability is pretty good indicator of stress. My HRV graph for last 6 months clearly shows when I made decision to change job and when I gave 2 weeks notice.

How do you have 6 months of data? Is that something modern smart watches produce? I would love to have that data for myself, but don't really want to complicate my life with a smart watch. I don't even like keeping my e-reader's battery charged...

My heart nerves got jacked up a couple years ago, and I had to get a pacemaker. It's presumably collecting a ton of cool data that it BLE's to the manufacturer and my cardiologist, but I don't have access to it.

Re: Thank HN: Five months ago, I was feeling like a loser, now I am opposite

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Post by brailsafe »

philliphaydon wrote: post #102
brailsafe wrote: post #46

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It's easier to make that decision if you've already made a bunch of money. Pretty hard to do that if you have no money.

So I’ve worked ~18 years and never at a stupidly high salary in the US.

Right, so you've made a bunch of money, and can now be a little more picky. I never implied that you were necessarily a millionaire, but it does seem like there's a good chance of it.

I ain't sitting in front of my computer because I love it, I do it because I need money.

Re: Thank HN: Five months ago, I was feeling like a loser, now I am opposite

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Post by bin_bash »

granshaw wrote: post #140
bin_bash wrote: post #84

> I was motivated and was able to solve most easy and medium question in 30 mins. However, that was not good enough for FAANGs. What makes you think it's not good enough? LC is important and today it might be even be essential to land a role, but I think people tend to think of it like an exam when that's not really what we're testing for. The goal is to see how you think, not see if you can simply come up with the r…

Wait wait wait - have you seen the Amazon interview process? The first assessment step is a completely automated LC test with no human on the other side. Either you pass the all the test cases including your algo being quick enough on large datasets or you don’t. Yes they are this blatant about it nowadays.

I’ve gone through the process twice with Amazon as recently as last month and not had this screen. I’m sure they offer it for some candidates but it’s not going to be LC medium difficulty.

Re: Thank HN: Five months ago, I was feeling like a loser, now I am opposite

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Post by bin_bash »

8ytecoder wrote: post #92
bin_bash wrote: post #84

> I was motivated and was able to solve most easy and medium question in 30 mins. However, that was not good enough for FAANGs. What makes you think it's not good enough? LC is important and today it might be even be essential to land a role, but I think people tend to think of it like an exam when that's not really what we're testing for. The goal is to see how you think, not see if you can simply come up with the r…

All we need is one interviewer who absolutely hates interviewing to ruin the experience for the candidate and probably throw them off balance. It happens in Big Tech much more often than people are willing to admit. I get where you are coming from when you say "the goal is to see how you think" - I really do and I have definitely believed in that once upon a time. Truth is, it's extremely gut/instinct driven than we…

My point is just that being able to solve LC mediums under 30 minutes isn’t that relevant. I’m not saying it’s a great way to vet candidates.

30 minutes is probably about what it takes me to solve an LC medium on average and I’ve passed every single FAANG full onsite loop I’ve taken which is a total of 6 over my career. I almost always need a hint or two if it’s not a trivial problem.

If I practiced I could get that number down but I don’t think it would make it more likely to get a better offer.

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