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Speaking of effective communication, I don't think your tone effectively persuades skeptical listeners. You are on a forum of Internet randos, having a polite discussion.
I’ll attempt to gently point out something that’s important to me: this is also an example of how males discuss things. It’s very difficult to bring up this topic in a constructive, thoughtful, and impactful way. But I urge you to really sit down and think carefully about it, even for a few minutes. His tone was the tone I used to use. I still do, sometimes. I have to catch myself, because old habits are hard to brea…
I agree with everything you said, and I'd add that this is not unique to women. There are many creators who don't want to operate in a bro culture.
Personally, I consider it a strength to be able to work with _all kinds of people_, and communicate in ways that are effective to each of them.
Edit to add: My default communication is more inclusive. But there are definitely situations where a leader needs to be aggressive (e.g. against an external threat), and failure to do so can jeopardize the well-being of your own employees who aren't prone to that communication style themselves.