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Overly analytical guide to escorting

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Re: Overly analytical guide to escorting

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Post by eurasiantiger »

tomc1985 wrote: post #136
akudha wrote: post #15

1,200 an hour! Jeez, that is insane! good for them. Once in a while, I come across something like this and wonder, what is it like to be that rich to casually drop 1,200 an hour , for anything, let alone on escorts.

It strikes me somewhat oddly that one might pay so much for something that literally half the people on this planet is equipped to provide You're paying for looks, ease, simplicity, no strings, and so on... I get it. But idunno, that is a lot of money for one nut. Also suprised the San Diego price is so high, when there is a red light district literally on the border in Tijuana, and those girls charge $60-$100/hr US…

Imagine if a group of people benefited from shaming male masturbation!

Re: Overly analytical guide to escorting

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Post by hzay »

I felt very sorry when she said it's difficult to take deposits because payment processors are cruel, that she can't report a horrible client to police, that the govt refuses to acknowledge the work but takes the taxes, and all the precautions escorts have to take against cops. This work should be legal.

Re: Overly analytical guide to escorting

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Post by LurkingPenguin »

kfprt wrote: post #142
LurkingPenguin wrote: post #124

Earlier quoted context omitted.

And then what? You're going to tell consenting adults what they're allowed to do based on some subjective analysis of these? What happens if the men who pay directly for sex report shorter relationships and have lifespans 6 months shorter than men who don't, but they tell you they're happier? Or what happens if you discover that men who pay for sex while in relationships report longer relationships?

Of course not. It's like smoking, a case for disincentives. As for data that doesn't yet exist, I can't comment.

Why are you already bringing up disincentives? Your comments hint that you've already decided there is something inherently wrong with paying directly for sex. You're totally dismissing the possibility that research might very well find that prostitution is a net positive for individuals, and that most of the associated negatives are caused by its criminalization.

Re: Overly analytical guide to escorting

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Post by spoonjim »

manquer wrote: post #102
spoonjim wrote: post #90

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Well the article should give you some glimpse into the mindset behind transactional sex. I see Tweets I like, and photos of a woman with a good body. Her rate was $1,200, I am willing to pay. Consenting adults, consenting exchange, it might not be for you, and it might make you feel gross, that’s OK as you don’t try to deny us the right to make the exchange. Of course not relevant since she is not escorting now.

Perhaps his objection is a bit different( or maybe am projecting). It may feel more wrong that you are talking about it in a forum, rather than engaging with her privately

Sending a former escort private messages about fucking her is much grosser than commenting on a very frank blog post she’s made about her experiences.

Re: Overly analytical guide to escorting

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Post by trabant00 »

> You might carry away feelings of disgust, shame, or hatred. Not everyone feels like this, but if you do, I would not recommend escorting

Just like mental fatigue (term meant as a catch all) is an integral and non separable part of IT work, the feelings described in the quote are not optional for sex workers! You WILL get burned by all the downsides of escorting, it WILL change how you perceive yourself, it WILL affect your dating life, relationships, etc.

Some are more resilient than others, you can deal with it better or worse and preparation surely helps. But don't think you can have your cake and eat it too.

I've started very open minded about the profession as a young man. Looking back on it I now think it was justification so I can allow myself to date sex workers as they are on average quite attractive, go figure. And while individuals differ and you can find the same issues outside of sex workers, the job guarantees some problems of which I personally I grew tired of. I am currently avoiding the profession for romantic interests and would not recommend anybody I care about to go into it. Discrimination sometime has objective serious motivation, the motives are just lost to some.

Re: Overly analytical guide to escorting

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Post by LurkingPenguin »

_z6tl wrote: post #132
LurkingPenguin wrote: post #42

Earlier quoted context omitted.

And also: > 8% reported legal trouble > 8% reported being arrested > 16% reported physical assault > 17% reported contracting a STD > 29% reported being stolen from > 41% reported sexual assault So no doubt the rates are in part a reflection of the risks providers take in the course of offering their services.

And no doubt the risks decrease as the hourly rate increases.

I'm not sure that's true. There are wealthy, powerful men who can pay any hourly rate for sex and who are practically above the law in many parts of the world. It would be a mistake to assume that some of them wouldn't assault an escort in the not inaccurate belief that they can do whatever they want with impunity.

Re: Overly analytical guide to escorting

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Post by Yoric »

system2 wrote: post #149
guythedudebro wrote: post #148

Earlier quoted context omitted.

What you quoted does not really imply you are at an extreme risk of getting a deadly virus.

At 17%, if you do it a long period of time you definitely get it. Even if it isn't deadly virus, you get something nasty and most likely permanently.

I find it a bit surprising that 17% report STDs while only 9% report not using a condom at all. I would have expected causality.
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