> They could have done all that without telling you.
But in that case it would much more likely be a crime, it would certainly cost them a tremendous amount of good will.
Your personal computing device is a trusted agent. You cannot use the internet without it, and esp. in lockdown you likely can't realistically live your life without use of the internet. You share with it your most private information, more so even than you do with your other trusted agents like your doctor or lawyers (whom you likely communicate with using the device). Its operation is opaque to you: you're just forced to trust it. As such your device ethically owes you a duty to act in your best interest, to the greatest extent allowed by the law. -- not unlike your lawyers obligation to act in your interest.
Apple is reprogramming customer devices, against the will of many users (presumably at the cost of receiving necessary fixes and security updates if you decline) to make it betray that trust and compromise the confidentiality of the device's user/owner.
The fact that Apple is doing it openly makes it worse in the sense that it undermines your legal recourse for the betrayal. The only recourse people have is the one you see them exercising in this thread: Complaining about it in public and encouraging people to abandon apple products.
E2EE should have been standard a decade ago, certainly since the Snowden revelations. No doubt apple seeks to gain a commercial advantage by simultaneously improving their service while providing some pretextual dismissal of child abuse concerns. But this gain comes at the cost of deploying and normalizing an automated surveillance infrastructure, one which undermines their product's ethical duty to their customers, and one that could be undetectable retasked to enable genocide by being switched to match on images associated with various religions, ethniticities, or political ideologies.