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Re: Slow Mornings May Be a Secret to Tech-Life Balance

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Post by irrational »

beamatronic wrote: post #114
irrational wrote: post #80

I get up at 5am to start getting the kids up and ready for school (high schoolers first, then elementary schoolers, then middle schoolers). Everyone is finally at school by 9:15am and I can head in for work. I get home around 6pm and get the little kids in bed by 8pm. 8-8:30pm is me time. Then I get ready for bed and am asleep by 9pm. I can't imagine what a slow morning (or evening!) would even be like. I'd appreciat…

After you drop them off, but before you go to work - can you work from home at your kitchen table with your laptop and coffee?

I could, but I don't need to. My work is super chill. I show up when I want to and leave when I want to. We are encouraged to use the fitness facilities every day, so I usually spend an hour or so working out midday as well.

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Post by mikelyons »

irrational wrote: post #80

I get up at 5am to start getting the kids up and ready for school (high schoolers first, then elementary schoolers, then middle schoolers). Everyone is finally at school by 9:15am and I can head in for work. I get home around 6pm and get the little kids in bed by 8pm. 8-8:30pm is me time. Then I get ready for bed and am asleep by 9pm. I can't imagine what a slow morning (or evening!) would even be like. I'd appreciat…

I wonder why we are required to work 8 hours instead of just 2 every day.

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Post by saeranv »

irrational wrote: post #80

I get up at 5am to start getting the kids up and ready for school (high schoolers first, then elementary schoolers, then middle schoolers). Everyone is finally at school by 9:15am and I can head in for work. I get home around 6pm and get the little kids in bed by 8pm. 8-8:30pm is me time. Then I get ready for bed and am asleep by 9pm. I can't imagine what a slow morning (or evening!) would even be like. I'd appreciat…

I'm curious about what you need to do to get your kids ready for school?

I'm not sure what age middle schoolers are (haven't heard of that term before), but shouldn't kids be capable of waking up, dressing, and going to school by themselves by they're hitting Gr.3 and up (and definitely by high school!).

Re: Slow Mornings May Be a Secret to Tech-Life Balance

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Post by JohnFen »

vinceguidry wrote: post #113
JohnFen wrote: post #97

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> This requires non-trivial time and resources and is risky. Absolutely true. You need to take a risk to take advantage of an opportunity. > Without the resources you can only try it a few times in a lifetime. If you have time and determination, you really do have all the resources that are necessary (unless you're wanting a get-rich-quick type of thing, of course). There's nothing that limits you to a few times in a…

Sure, with time and determination, you can build a ladder up a mountain. But one path is as good as another if that's the case. All the 'opportunities' you're ignoring aren't opportunities, they're noise A real opportunity compels you to take advantage of it, you really are losing something if you don't follow it up. What's limiting you to a few tries to a lifetime is time. It takes 5-10 years to properly validate a…

I think that we may be defining "opportunity" differently. It sounds like you're defining it more like a "windfall". To me, an opportunity is when you see a path to enhancing your success. It is not automatically success, and does not imply that no effort is required on your part.

An opportunity is when you find a way of advancing your goals that has a reasonably good chance of success.

> It takes 5-10 years to properly validate a business model,

Except that it doesn't. And you should never go into business with a business model that is so fixed that the only thing you can do is to validate it or not. Your business model is something that you are continually adjusting (sometimes radically) as you learn more about what you're doing or as your situation changes.

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Post by vinceguidry »

JohnFen wrote: post #154
vinceguidry wrote: post #113

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Sure, with time and determination, you can build a ladder up a mountain. But one path is as good as another if that's the case. All the 'opportunities' you're ignoring aren't opportunities, they're noise A real opportunity compels you to take advantage of it, you really are losing something if you don't follow it up. What's limiting you to a few tries to a lifetime is time. It takes 5-10 years to properly validate a…

I think that we may be defining "opportunity" differently. It sounds like you're defining it more like a "windfall". To me, an opportunity is when you see a path to enhancing your success. It is not automatically success, and does not imply that no effort is required on your part. An opportunity is when you find a way of advancing your goals that has a reasonably good chance of success. > It takes 5-10 years to prope…

> To me, an opportunity is when you see a path to enhancing your success. It is not automatically success, and does not imply that no effort is required on your part.

It's not lack of effort that defines opportunity but the reduction of risk. If someone offers me an opportunity, that means I can work hard and have more of a guarantee of success than if I went and did something else.

Opportunity means it's not just your intuition, effort, and resourcefulness that mitigates risk. Some other factor is helping. Some other company or person is offering you crucial advice and resources. Like Dr. Dre mentoring Eminem. That's an opportunity. You have to get lucky to find one, and then you have to be ready to jump on it.

Getting to the top of a mountain always takes effort, it's just a question of how much it takes to get to the top and whether the direction you pick is the right one.

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Post by adamhepner »

jefftk wrote: post #117
jacobolus wrote: post #106

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> hardest on the day your child is born, but it gets progressively easier A 3-year-old definitely takes a lot more continuous attention than a newborn (assuming the newborn is healthy, eats and sleeps okay, ...). I was able to get some amount of work done while taking care of my first kid up to about age 1. In the two years since then, not so much (I just pray for conveniently timed naps). The second one is 6 months…

> A 3-year-old definitely takes a lot more continuous attention than a newborn I think this varies enormously between kids, and to some extent between parenting styles as well. With my particular kids (5y and 3y) I can often spend a whole afternoon working on a project while they play individually or together; at younger ages the time commitment was far larger (nearly continuous).

Ha! My boy (almost 3) may be playing with his legos for whole afternoon, but the moment I peek in the general direction of my laptop, he wants to bang on the keyboard. Not any keyboard (tried that), but my keyboard specifically.

And when it comes to "it depends on the kid", oh dear. I try to practice stoicism whenever I remember about it, and logically I try to remember that I should be grateful for his fussiness and rebelliousness, since they give me occasions to practice my stoicism. But it sure does feel a bit like stockholm syndrome sometimes.

Re: Slow Mornings May Be a Secret to Tech-Life Balance

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Post by TaylorAlexander »

johntash wrote: post #148
TaylorAlexander wrote: post #127

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$100 an hour as an independent contractor developing farming robots at a place that feels very very good for me. EDIT: I definitely got very lucky finding this position. I’m not suggesting everyone can just do this. But if people don’t refuse to work 40-50 hour work weeks, then that’s what employers will expect.

What country are you in if you don't mind? I don't really know how it works in countries with better healthcare, but in the US you usually have to work fulltime to get any sort of benefits from your employer. And benefits through the marketplace (not through an employer) are generally expensive for what they offer. Someone in the US would need to make quite a bit to be able to do part time.

I’m in the US and I pay about $550 a month for health insurance. I’m a 34 year old white male. I factored the cost of insurance in to my bill rate when negotiating this position.

Maybe some day we’ll get universal health care.

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