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Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by ken » Thu, Sep 05, 2019, 3:57 PM UTC

unethical_ban wrote: post #32

I am shocked by the ignorance here. "Why would Facebook do this? Nobody trusts them, they've run out of ideas, etc." They're the largest social network in the world, and this site is a filter bubble of privacy advocates and relatively anti-social people. Do you truly believe there isn't a market on Facebook for dating? Do you really think Facebook brand is universally tarnished in some way that this isn't a good move…

> Do you really think Facebook brand is universally tarnished in some way

I can only report on what I see, and my non-tech friends seem even more anti-Facebook than my tech friends. I'm sure there are plenty of users in the world who still love Facebook, but the company has definitely gone past the tipping point of "only techies hate it, and for obscure reasons".

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by djohnston » Thu, Sep 05, 2019, 3:59 PM UTC

martin_a wrote: post #55

radlad wrote: post #20

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I did not expect Marketplace to take off and now it's a must-check before Craigslist.

Seriously? From what I see in the German version of Facebook, Marketplace is nowhere near "eBay Kleinanzeigen" which is by far the most popular website for things like that. Actually Marketplace is even lower in quality and if you've ever used eBay Kleinanzeigen you know that it's hard to get under that level.

seriously, it's huge over here.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by kart23 » Thu, Sep 05, 2019, 3:59 PM UTC

Can anyone tell me how to actually opt in and use dating? I cant find it in the app on android.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by jessicalondon » Thu, Sep 05, 2019, 4:01 PM UTC

hombre_fatal wrote: post #142

mabermoske wrote: post #138

If I look at who I know that is still using fb it is almost exclusively older people. I'm 33 and deleted my fb account, almost every person I know younger than me either did the same or was never on in the first place. I see this being huge for older adults who are divorced or widowed, those are the people still using fb and I think would be happy to use this service.

Counter-anecdote: I'm 30 and have yet to meet someone in my dating/friend range (20-35) that never had Facebook here in Mexico or home in Austin. I'd be curious if you're socializing in some sort of anti-FB bubble or actually have a sample size of like 5 people when you consider the people you actually know this info about.

Willing to date 10 years younger, but only 5 years higher.

Interesting.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by [deleted] » Thu, Sep 05, 2019, 4:01 PM UTC

n8henry wrote: post #96

taude wrote: post #77

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I didn't think young people used the Facebook brand anymore? If all the stories that have been published about that are to be believed.

They don't. They should have called this Instagram Dating, but Zuck doesn't want to admit that the Facebook brand is no longer "cool"

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Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by deminature » Thu, Sep 05, 2019, 4:02 PM UTC

jerf wrote: post #129

deminature wrote: post #117

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I assume they're thinking the groups of people that read security disclosure articles and those that would use FB dating are disjoint. They're probably not wrong.

We overestimate change in the short-term but underestimate it in the long term. Any individual news story isn't going to be the reason Facebook loses 75% of their users over night, but the steady march of these stories isn't going to have no effect. I find it easy to imagine a world where in 5-10 years, Facebook is a complete non-entity, and for all the articles written that claim to understand why, nobody will actua…

I agree with you, but Facebook seems be aware and is mitigating using brands like Instagram and Whatsapp which average people don't associate with Facebook. If they keep acquiring undervalued social companies and downplaying their ownership, I could see them sticking around for quite a while unfortunately.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by hombre_fatal » Thu, Sep 05, 2019, 4:03 PM UTC

jessicalondon wrote: post #154

hombre_fatal wrote: post #142

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Counter-anecdote: I'm 30 and have yet to meet someone in my dating/friend range (20-35) that never had Facebook here in Mexico or home in Austin. I'd be curious if you're socializing in some sort of anti-FB bubble or actually have a sample size of like 5 people when you consider the people you actually know this info about.

Willing to date 10 years younger, but only 5 years higher. Interesting.

Controversial in 2019, but youth is a perk if I get to choose with an "age range" slider. Also, women 35+ are usually on a different clock than I am.

I'm happy to share more insight as a man dating at 30 if you want, but just ask.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by hmmmhmmmhmmm » Thu, Sep 05, 2019, 4:06 PM UTC

Facebook has 10+ years of data about people and their friendships and relationships unfolding through time (tagged pictures, relationship status, updates, likes, etc.). It's hard to tell if they've built and deployed such a model for proposing matches, but this could be their killer feature. Superficially, this product seems no different from existing data apps.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by ummonk » Thu, Sep 05, 2019, 4:06 PM UTC

KaoruAoiShiho wrote: post #61

msoad wrote: post #49

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I think this is an "old people's thinking" perspective. Younger generation are way more open about their dating life than us. They openly talk about their dating life at work or friends group. They don't mind getting matched with a coworker or classmate.

Yeah it's a load of assumptions, I'm chalking it more up to a "socially anxious person's thinking" than "old" person's thinking. For many people I think being able to smoothly integrate their existing social life into a dating app is a godsend.

Right, I mean secret crush seems like a real improvement over the status quo in its ability to discover potential relationships without risking making existing friendships awkward.

Re: Facebook Dating

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Post by ocdtrekkie » Thu, Sep 05, 2019, 4:07 PM UTC

jessicalondon wrote: post #154

hombre_fatal wrote: post #142

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Counter-anecdote: I'm 30 and have yet to meet someone in my dating/friend range (20-35) that never had Facebook here in Mexico or home in Austin. I'd be curious if you're socializing in some sort of anti-FB bubble or actually have a sample size of like 5 people when you consider the people you actually know this info about.

Willing to date 10 years younger, but only 5 years higher. Interesting.

It's not an unusual tendency for women to prefer men older than them, and men to prefer women younger than them. So these preferences can match up to a mutually preferable arrangement for both parties.

Also, FWIW, parent said "friend/dating" range. Which potentially means 20-35 may not fully apply to both categories.