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"Pleasing people most definitely pays. That is how the world works; you give people what they want, and you get paid. Supply and demand." "Talking about truth and white lie as a dichotomy is childish. They are tools in a toolbox. If you feel guilty because you lied, then you are a slave to the principle of honesty." Integrity is wholeness of being, and it includes all of a person. It includes both the parts that will…
Sorry about the confusion. I can understand it, given my ill-defined and haphazard writing. I do define "What people want" differently than most. Most often giving people what they really need at the right time pays off in the long run. That is the approach I endorse. I think what you describe as integrity is what I endorse as well: master of all principles. Both lying and honesty are part of the toolkit. I would add…
One of the weird practices I have done is something called Demon Feeding. It descended from the Tibetan traditions, so it still carries it's shamanic/magical/tantric roots, but in this form, it was rebased in Western roots.
Each section is an amazing practice on it's own, and the first three sections sharpen discriminating awareness and empathy. Over time, practitioners not only learn to distinguish wants from needs, they also learn to dig for the need under the want. The practice does not stop there. After ascertaining the need, the practitioner than finds out what would be felt after fulfilling that need. That resulting feeling is what someone is searching for.
The practice is usually done with the self first, and over mant iterations, you start getting towards the ground. Dig deep enough and across enough iteration, the answer to "how will you feel if you get what you need" will tend to converge on one answer.