That's horrific for people to even think of doing that and I'm sorry that's happened to you. You have my condolences. Too many people in tech are so utterly shameless, unfortunately.
> Too many people in tech are so utterly shameless This applies to literally all of society, and has absolutely nothing to do with tech. Every society, everywhere. I mean, the guy sending that spam probably is pretty hard on their luck as well (and will probably eventually post a sad story about their lot and how they're just trying to hustle, etc). That doesn't excuse it, but it's turtles all the way down.
Before internet access became as ubiquitous as it is today, the vast majority of these scammers were stuck wallowing in their misery in their own little corner of the world, far away from you, unable to do much more than maybe call your phone.
And before the rise of LLMs, they had to write their spam by hand instead of being able to spit out thousands of customized scam messages with zero effort.