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Am I German or Autistic?

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Re: Am I German or Autistic?

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Post by abcde666777 »

WA wrote: post #129

Question 9 imho is the most German one ("When someone says 'we should get coffee sometime,' you understand this to mean:"). It depends on context a bit obviously, but most Germans are sincere about it. You either propose coffee or you don't. However, there's a subset of Germans who seem to propose coffee and then don't follow up themselves, but it's not just a phrase. If you are the one to follow up, they'd join you.…

It's the whims of emotion - in the moment a person says it it can be quite sincere, as that's their genuine mood in that instance, but later on the mood passes and the effort involved in arranging something outweighs the desire.

In that sense it does communicate something: I like and have enjoyed your company in this moment.

Flippant of course, but not too dastardly.

Re: Am I German or Autistic?

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Post by layer8 »

injidup wrote: post #55

The test doesn't follow the correct procedures for diagnosing autism and after a thorough reading of the DSM-5-TR I could find no mention of German a mental illness being and I challenge anyone to me wrong prove.

Your grammar is wrong.

Re: Am I German or Autistic?

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Post by wildzzz »

weinzierl wrote: post #108
fusslo wrote: post #90

Earlier quoted context omitted.

There's a quote in the Count of Monte Cristo where Edmond explains punctuality something to the effect: > Being early to an appointment is as rude as being late because you may be disturbing your host before they've taken all the efforts they require before your arrival ( VERY rough quote, the english translation is 100x more eloquent than my half-remembered version ) Edmond Dantès arrives exactly as the clock strike…

I guess the Brazilian take on this would be: "Being on time is rude because you may be disturbing your host before they’ve made all the preparations they need before your arrival. Being early would be an outrageous offense." It always amazes me how Brazilians and Germans can be so different when it comes to punctuality and yet so similar when it comes to their love of bureaucracy (and devotion to soccer, for that mat…

I specifically give people a time somewhere in the middle of a window in which they could arrive that neither disturbs my preparations nor disturbs the schedule I've devised. Everything may not be exactly ready at the beginning of that window but any preparations left to do can be performed while socializing (finish making appetizers, for example).

It also depends on who my guests are. If I know they are consistently late, I give them an earlier time. If they are always early, I give them a later time.

My grandfather was overly punctual. He'd show up 30-60mins early for dinner and my mom hated it. My mom loves hosting people but she can't do that while she's blowdrying her hair or helping her children get ready. So she would tell him a different time than everyone else coming over so he'd show up when everyone and everything was ready.

Re: Am I German or Autistic?

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Post by bena »

blitzar wrote: post #87
bena wrote: post #76

Earlier quoted context omitted.

They explain it on the site, the two percentages are independent. You are 60% non-German and 60% non-Autistic.

I dont want people to think I am German, Autistic or Pedantic but the question posed was ... Am I German or Autistic? not Am I German or Autistic or Non-German or Non-Autistic?

Obviously the title is cheeky as a lot of attributes ascribed to Autistic people are also stereotypes about Germans.

The site is exposing the reality that you can come to the same place from different directions. For example, if you are more "German", your sense of fairness, adherence to rules, regard for punctuality comes from a place of moral obligation. You act in ways you hope others will also act because you believe that if everyone acts that way, we'd all get along better.

However, if you do these things because those are the arbitrary rules set forth and they must be followed because that's the definition of a rule, something you follow, then you're likely Autistic because that kind of rigid thinking that is a hallmark of the condition.

Re: Am I German or Autistic?

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Post by smitty1e »

tokai wrote: post #70
sersi wrote: post #50

Having lived in Germany and experienced the wonderful Deutche Bahn, I wouldn't really associate punctuality with being German.

Most of the German stereotypes are not just untrue, reality is actually the opposite. Germans are not efficient as an example, they love layers of formality and documentation for its own shake at the cost of getting stuff done.

As a student of German (80 on DuoLingo) I'm fascinated by the definite articles.

If we're going to manage gender and case across nouns appearing in sentences, why not make them more distinct, please?

We've got 'die' owning far too much real estate here, in my opinion.

Re: Am I German or Autistic?

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Post by KptMarchewa »

sdevonoes wrote: post #2

Regarding punctuality I miss the option: “A moral obligation from my side, but I don’t care if others arrive late to an appointment with me”

It depends. If I invite you to my house, I don't really care unless you're too early or _very_ late.

If we are to meet in public - like restaurant - I don't want to awkwardly wait 15 minutes or more. At the very least, early notice is an obligation.

Re: Am I German or Autistic?

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Post by dickiedyce »

sdevonoes wrote: post #2

Regarding punctuality I miss the option: “A moral obligation from my side, but I don’t care if others arrive late to an appointment with me”

My dearest childhood friend is half Italian, allegedly.

However, his woeful time-keeping is so poor that we began to suspect that he was indeed simply from another planet... with a longer day.

Re: Am I German or Autistic?

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Post by giacomoforte »

Having lived in Germany, the strongest cultural conflict I felt was inflexibility of plans.

The German way is to plan something very meticulously and the to follow through with the plan no matter what.

I am however of the persuasion of not planning too much beforehand especially when the input is lacking. But also to be flexible and reactive during execution.

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