Automotive ethernet over copper physical layer is completely different than commercial/data center ethernet. It is defined in 802.3ch for multi gigabit (2.5, 5 and 10 Gbps). It uses single shielded twisted pair cables up to 15m long. Cables and connectors are automotive grade.
The power over data line (PoDL, automotive Ethernet equivalent of PoE) is defined by a separate IEEE protocol and its critical specifications like EM emissions tests, ESD tests etc are supplemented by documents created by a consortium of car, electrinics, comnector, cablr and semiconductor producors called OPEN Alliance: https://opensig.org/ . There are parts available for PoDL. The voltage levels from 6V to 60V with 6V increments are supported.
Source: I design both data center and automotive Ethernet chips.