Anything Android-based is going to fundamentally disappoint me, though de-Googled Android beats Google-infested. See criticisms above and in linked comments. That would argue against GrapheneOS.
PostmarketOS might be worth a look, thanks for reminding me about it.
Among the other problems Android presents is that it's very nearly totally owned the mobile-device market, save iOS and a very few niche products (e.g., the listed non-Android e-book readers above).
Otherwise in the small-device space there's RaPi and Arduino, and perhaps OpenWRT. Those obviously target different use-cases, but in terms of small/light systems are the principle options of which I'm aware. I'm also painfully aware that there are considerable UI/UX, power management, and security issues to consider for a mobile device, all the more so for anything that's aimed at a mass market. To an extent I can sympathize with some of the decisions Android's made, though that doesn't reduce my own frustration with it at all.
What I find curious about my own psychology and attitude toward the space is that the far more limited Palm devices (I'd owned a couple of PDAs as well as one of the Treo-line phones) didn't bother me to the same degree. Part of it was that these were such obviously limited devices, though they also seemed to be less afflicted by the advertising-and-surveillance disease.
Apple's iPads are so very nearly laptop-replacements but crippled in critical ways that it pains me. There's the Windows Surface (nice form-factor, pity about the OS), and a few other options.