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Re: Facebook Dating

#141

Post by wheelerwj » Thu, Sep 05, 2019, 3:51 PM UTC

estsauver wrote: post #16

I think this might be a (relatively) rare strategy error for Facebook. If the success of Snapchat, LinkedIn, and also the separate WhatsApp/Instagram properties proves anything, it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large. If I was facebook, I would very explicitly announce this as a spin out project, under a diff…

> it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large

its almost like facebook doesn't understand privacy at all...

Re: Facebook Dating

#142

Post by hombre_fatal » Thu, Sep 05, 2019, 3:52 PM UTC

mabermoske wrote: post #138

If I look at who I know that is still using fb it is almost exclusively older people. I'm 33 and deleted my fb account, almost every person I know younger than me either did the same or was never on in the first place. I see this being huge for older adults who are divorced or widowed, those are the people still using fb and I think would be happy to use this service.

Counter-anecdote: I'm 30 and have yet to meet someone in my dating/friend range (20-35) that never had Facebook here in Mexico or home in Austin.

I'd be curious if you're socializing in some sort of anti-FB bubble or actually have a sample size of like 5 people when you consider the people you actually know this info about.

Re: Facebook Dating

#143

Post by dbg31415 » Thu, Sep 05, 2019, 3:53 PM UTC

msoad wrote: post #49

estsauver wrote: post #16

I think this might be a (relatively) rare strategy error for Facebook. If the success of Snapchat, LinkedIn, and also the separate WhatsApp/Instagram properties proves anything, it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large. If I was facebook, I would very explicitly announce this as a spin out project, under a diff…

I think this is an "old people's thinking" perspective. Younger generation are way more open about their dating life than us. They openly talk about their dating life at work or friends group. They don't mind getting matched with a coworker or classmate.

Do people under 25 even use Facebook? I mean... most of them see it as another LinkedIn for sharing Granny Photos.

I was on Bumble a little late at night... kinda mindlessly swiping... girl looked cute... little familiar... swipe... Instantly realize as it chimes with "boom" that it was my boss. Nope nope nope, delete the whole thing and never return. They all have a problem around showing you co-workers, and it'd be so easy to just be like, "Cool, never show me people who work here, or never show me people I know on Facebook / LinkedIn." Wouldn't catch everything, but it'd catch a lot of it. Ha, and... the bigger problem I guess is that I don't really trust any of these sites to link them to Facebook or LinkedIn. They all seem fundamentally scammy and spammy.

But... I've had some fun with Bumble. Just... yeah I don't even trust it with my Spotify playlists.

Re: Facebook Dating

#144

Post by wheelerwj » Thu, Sep 05, 2019, 3:53 PM UTC

mabermoske wrote: post #138

If I look at who I know that is still using fb it is almost exclusively older people. I'm 33 and deleted my fb account, almost every person I know younger than me either did the same or was never on in the first place. I see this being huge for older adults who are divorced or widowed, those are the people still using fb and I think would be happy to use this service.

don't forget a huge part of their user base is in developing countries. How dating plays into that is going to be interesting.

Re: Facebook Dating

#145

Post by steve_gh » Thu, Sep 05, 2019, 3:53 PM UTC

saagarjha wrote: post #87

technofiend wrote: post #71

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It also seems particularly poorly timed when a breach exposing Facebook user phone numbers just made hacker news yesterday. Does anyone really want to trust a dating service that aggressively collects anything and everything about a person and may accidentally share it? Sounds like a stalker's paradise.

Unfortunately, I doubt many outside of Hacker News heard about this.

Like the BBC? https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/technology-49594264

Re: Facebook Dating

#146

Post by VWWHFSfQ » Thu, Sep 05, 2019, 3:54 PM UTC

wheelerwj wrote: post #141

estsauver wrote: post #16

I think this might be a (relatively) rare strategy error for Facebook. If the success of Snapchat, LinkedIn, and also the separate WhatsApp/Instagram properties proves anything, it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large. If I was facebook, I would very explicitly announce this as a spin out project, under a diff…

> it's that there are very different faces of ourselves that we show to the professional world, to our friends, to partners, and to the world at large its almost like facebook doesn't understand privacy at all...

they understand it perfectly well.

Re: Facebook Dating

#147

Post by carlosdp » Thu, Sep 05, 2019, 3:56 PM UTC

anonymousjunior wrote: post #124

carlosdp wrote: post #67

So, I'd use this, as someone who has trouble getting matches on dating apps usually. Facebook already has the largest issue for dating apps solved: the network chicken-and-egg problem. Dating apps are non-exclusive, I have 3 installed on my phone and using an additional one isn't a big deal. If they are able to provide a differentiated feature set from other apps because they can better leverage FB interest data, I d…

Does anyone actually have up to date interest data on FB these days? I can't remember the last time I "liked" an interest or artist page. All of the data in the system now is leftover from when I was like 15 using the platform (24 now and yes, actively dating). Only thing I actively use FB for these days is messenger and fantasy football shit talking groups, which are all "private".

I was more talking about the "dark" data they collect from our surfing over the internet =P Not great, but it could potentially help with this one particular case.

Re: Facebook Dating

#148

Post by bitL » Thu, Sep 05, 2019, 3:56 PM UTC

Didn't Facebook originally start as a "reductionistic" way for nerds around Mark to connect with "secret crushes" at Harvard? Didn't YouTube start as a dating site at UIUC as well, for pretty much the same reasons?

Re: Facebook Dating

#149

Post by ritchiea » Thu, Sep 05, 2019, 3:57 PM UTC

donatj wrote: post #12

This seems like something they should have added ten plus years ago, when their demo was primarily college kids. I know many people who were clamoring for it at the time. It would have been an obvious addition as dating and relationships were a large part of the reason a lot of people used Facebook. I half suspect this is an attempt to pull college kids back into Facebook. I think they missed their chance with this b…

That might have worked but college students already used FB as a defacto dating app and facebook still grew to be a monopoly without that feature. Now that facebook is out of favor with young people this might be a good way to increase engagement with older single people.

Re: Facebook Dating

#150

Post by wheelerwj » Thu, Sep 05, 2019, 3:57 PM UTC

JacKTrocinskI wrote: post #13

Date your friends! :D On a more serious note though, why not? If their mission is to help connect people and this helps connect people that otherwise had trouble dating and this does so in a meaningful way then sounds good to me. Privacy is always a concern no matter what the app/site/technology.

Because the only connecting they are doing is consumers to advertisers.

We've already seen what social media connected to advertising does to election security, do you really think its a good idea to test it on your love life?