Add me to the list of people who were horrified to see a social feed when I signed up for Venmo. Ain't no way I'm ever going to use it. Though I suppose it would be interesting to see what other people are paying for/getting paid for. Perhaps I know some drug dealers or "professional girlfriends", etc.
People using Venmo to spy on cheating spouses
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#142Earlier quoted context omitted.
>It is annoying how stuff on Facebook is by default shared with "Public", It does? Mine currently defaults to "friends", and I'm pretty sure the default is just "whatever your last choice was" -- if I set my last one to public, then next time the default value is public.
Yes, that's the default when you start (which is bad). The default is furthermore like you said "whatever your last choice was". Which is bloody annoying. As if some terribly dumb AI is trying to understand what my motive is. If I always post for X, and then make an exception, then I don't want that exception again next time. Why would I? So if I always post "for friends", for example, and then one time I post "for f…
I think you're being too hard on FB for that. It's pretty common for UIs to be "sticky" in that sense, because, as a (pre-AI-hype) heuristic, it's generally accurate. If anything, the AI-driven UI is the one that would realize you probably don't want the cherry pie again.
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#143Venmo is evil. They have this whole concept of socializing how we spend money. They're onboarding merchants like they're going to replace credit cards. I don't want my money in a "Venmo account." I want it in my bank account. I don't need all my friends knowing who I'm paying back, and for what.
The only time I've used it in the past year is when a guy at a gas station asked to borrow $20 to fill his tank and he paid me back with Venmo. I was worried it was a scam, but it worked out okay.
Cash is still king.
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#144Earlier quoted context omitted.
It is a cultural/generational thing. Millenials don't think twice about this. They are shocked that anyone would care. Non-millennials are shocked that anyone would share their financials publicly. We're all shocked at each other's behavior.
Excuse me... but as a millennial, and knowing many other millennials that also care, we do absolutely care. There is a long list of people that I know that don't use Venmo because of the "social" crap. Please don't try to brush this as a "millennials don't care".
Is it necessary to take offense at every general statement?
If millennials are the primary users of this product, then what he says is true. It's really tedious to have to couch every general statement in terms that allow for exceptions.
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#145Earlier quoted context omitted.
I'm utterly perplexed that Venmo is even a thing. When I first started hearing about it maybe 5-6 years ago, I just figured, I already have PayPal and Square Cash, I'm too old, nobody I know uses Venmo, why bother. I've mostly ignored that it existed except occasionally hearing (usually younger) folks talking about it. A couple of months ago I was telling some people at work that I'm too old for it, and Square Cash w…
Well it's PayPal without the fees.
Is it?
My understanding is that (other than the brand and parent ownership) as services they're quite different.
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#146Earlier quoted context omitted.
Yes, that's the default when you start (which is bad). The default is furthermore like you said "whatever your last choice was". Which is bloody annoying. As if some terribly dumb AI is trying to understand what my motive is. If I always post for X, and then make an exception, then I don't want that exception again next time. Why would I? So if I always post "for friends", for example, and then one time I post "for f…
I think you're being too hard on FB for that. It's pretty common for UIs to be "sticky" in that sense, because, as a (pre-AI-hype) heuristic, it's generally accurate. If anything, the AI-driven UI is the one that would realize you probably don't want the cherry pie again.
Sticky just feels oddly underoptimized for such an AI-based platform. But lets imagine a different situation. Imagine this was a BB and I was an admin, and I was suddenly switching from the admin forum to a non-admin forum. I'd certainly wanna get that very clear to me, right? Perhaps not the best example though.
Even if decision-based AI is not preferable they could also just after such a deviation instead of assuming one or the other use it to ask me. Like a heads up.
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#147Earlier quoted context omitted.
Hmm, I think most people use it to pay friends back for brunch or drinks. It's not like you're streaming all your credit card purchases. It's kinda like checking in on Foursquare with friends... it's a public way to expose your social graph a bit. It may not be for you, but people love social media. To put it a different way: it's so successful because, despite there being lots of ways to pay back friends, none of th…
> It may not be for you, but people love social media People also love heroin and alcohol and tobacco. People love lots of things that are terrible for them.
If you think letting your friends know you just had brunch is on par with heroin or alcohol... well, damn. I think social media can be unhealthy, and I think the pendulum is beginning to swing back the other way, but I support exploring new ways to communicate with the people around you.
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#148Guys, people aren't "exposing their finances" on Venmo. People don't use it to buy stuff, or pay off CC bills, or anything. Nor are the transaction amounts exposed. It's used for balancing payments/debts between individuals. I don't consider "A paid B for brunch yesterday" or "X paid Y for Rent+cable" in any way to be "exposing finances". It's just another random (albeit unnecessary) social network, one that takes li…
Thank you... also I'm not sure people realize that you type the description of the transaction, it's not coming from a credit card or something, so you can be as specific/vague/nonsensical/misleading as you want...
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#149Venmo should accept the rejection of a payment.
Someone can publicly send you a payment with any arbitrary message and there is NO way for you to avoid it other than to send the money back.
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#150This page was immediately taken over by the ad redirects for free iPhones and crap. Can we get this replaced with a not shady source?