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Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)

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Re: Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)

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I'm a man and in my late 20's (currently mid-30's and been with my partner for a few years now) had a great time using OKCupid. I was able to average 2-3 dates per week and received replies to ~25% of my messages. Before anyone asks, I am average appearance. I don't drive (bicycle only). Things I had going in my favor: I'm white, had a flexible job (could meet whenever) and vegan diet (probably the biggest help as ve…

This probably works if you're an average guy looking for an average woman. In that that case, you are most likely to be compatible. It doesn't work so well if your interests, tastes, or personality are off the beaten track, however. I have a lot of unusual interests and prefer to find women who share them. So my success rate at just randomly rolling the dice and having women just randomly roll the dice in return (suc…

>I've also never posted pictures of myself (though I have sent them upon request).

Recently I tried creating a profile and was told a picture was required to proceed. Is this a newer requirement?

Re: Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

You take my analogy too literally and interpreted it incorrectly. I could have used "crocheting" instead of "basketball" and the analogy would be just as strong. From your incorrect interpretation, you made wildly false conclusions about my lying to others, pretending to be someone I'm not, and generally misrepresenting myself, as if you think that's what I do on my dates. I've learned how to date women by building s…

Still doesn't make sense. You don't crochet by finding a weave that's compatible with your personality or whatever. You crochet by following correct technique and stitching.

Dating is a skill. You and your date can be greatly compatible, but as a guy, if you don't know how to move the ball forward, you two will never have the chance to enter an actual relationship.

If you don't understand that there is skill in dating, then you probably don't understand dating.

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