I get what you are saying and I agree somewhat, but there are also some lessons to be learned from Linus and things to consider. I especially agree that many lesser talented people use his behavior as a justification for their own. I disagree that at least some of his lessons or behavior is detrimental.
A good realization in life that many of us have is, "Most people are wrong about most things most of the time." This feels sometimes like it applies by an order of magnitude to programming. I think Linus has a style that deals with this reality head-on and it certainly is not for everyone.
One needs to perhaps not be exactly like Linus, but draw some insight from what he does. First, he is bluntly honest with people and there is virtue there. You can argue there is a polite way to be honest, yet sometimes I wonder if I have found it. For huge parts of my career I made my life harder or even self-sabotaged myself by being overly polite to people. I was always assuming (and often still do) that I am wrong and they are right. Further, I give people the benefit of the doubt, try to help them save face in front of others even when wrong, and hear them out before making judgements. It sounds solid and is many ways a healthy attitude for life in general as well as programming.
The problem that arises is that people are people. It is true that people will take advantage of you. It is true sometimes if you give them an inch, they will take ten. It is true stupid people often get ahead. More often the answer is simply people don't get the message.
You can sit and do a code review with someone, ask them politely to do something, send an email, have a lunch chat, whatever, and the message still does not get across with most programmers. You can say that is bad communication or "my fault," but actually I am speaking more about what I observe rather as a whole than my own personal experience. I have had the privilege of working with best friends for small parts of my career, and even then this was an issue. I can't imagine people with better textbook communication than we did, but maybe what we needed was more Linus-style communication. Sometimes the advice or knowledge is beyond colleagues, and they'll even say, "Yeah, oops, I know you said to do X, but I did Y, my bad." That doesn't help you in project and getting things done, especially if it means minimum someone spends time to fix mistakes they know they should have never made.
If you are direct or even a bit abrasive, there is no ambiguity. I grew up in two different cultures side-by-side and traveled the world at various points, living abroad for periods too. Without providing too much PII, I will say that my experience with American culture is that it is very polite, understanding, apologetic (Canadians get this rep.), relatively open, and welcoming. People in American workplaces are on the one hand uptight, more wound up, extremely dishonest, very opportunistic, melodramatic, and a host of other negative traits. On the other hand, Americans are very precise, thoughtful, at least feign listening to you, clever, and methodical. Compare that to another culture that I'd describe as masters of improv, extremely practical, open, honest, and yet sloppy, self-centered, arrogant, overconfident, and disorganized. Neither culture is better than the other, and like Linus, his style just represents one view point of dealing with programmers that is not really better or worse than most others that work.
I will say that in the second culture I mention, things get done faster for certain types of work. The openness aspect also really matches a part of what Linus does. People tell you exactly what they think of you. Sometimes it's really hurtful such as telling you that you look "fatter" one day vs. another. They don't think of it as malicious though because from their perspective, they think something is wrong and they are trying to help. By pointing out you look like you are gaining weight, you might be surprised to know what is really going on is they think you might be sick and want to take care of you. They think you might be eating bad and want to feed you better food. Sometimes, sure, they are just being dicks.
One can think of what Linus says as just a philosophy that won't work for everyone. Someone telling you exactly what you did wrong and not trying to be diplomatic, cute, or passive aggressive about it ensures the message is clear. It helps you in that you may never make that mistake again. There is no ambiguity hopefully and you either do what he says or decide all of it is not worth your time. Playing games, working people with you do not like, pretending to be nice, and blindly following cultural idiosyncrasies are not things I personally enjoy. Some people need those layers of protection or to live a life with those things, and that's fine I guess and equally OK if I decide not to for myself.
I personally cannot work in an environment like most of corporate America anymore or even startups. I need people to be "real" with me, and to learn non-obvious things. I need to be constantly improving, not patted on the back and stabbed in the back by that same person. I want to be stabbed in the front. Of course I realize for many people that might be soul crushing and too much.
The problem I think is that people are misinterpreting what is going on here. Using curse words at everyone for the sake of cursing or yelling for the sake of yelling is not the message. Nor is one true style of coding. To me, his message in part is "Be honest, be direct, be specific, and be clear." He has one clear direction for most of his projects and expects people to follow it or go home. IMO, this is what many software projects need - good, unwavering, solid leadership. It usually doesn't work with a pure democracy because no decisions, at least not the heard ones are made. I look at committees like the W3C and others and see how long it takes to produce output, how much fighting, etc. I look at github issues and see the long threads of people trying to fake politeness. No thanks.
An ignorant tyrant isn't what is needed either. This is where it gets hard. If there was one style for all projects, we'd use it for all projects. Sometimes democracies maybe do work for small projects. Sometimes the real leader is not the person identified in charge. It takes some luck to have what Linus's projects have and the same leader who is good for one type of project is not good for another. I am 100% certain Linus would fail leading many projects.
As for Linus WRT to the software pantheon, you'd be surprised by what I just wrote to note that I don't really care about him. I do not have heroes or believe in hero worship. Moreover, although I use and value Linux, I do not actually like it and I am somewhat unhappy it exists (but happy vs. Windows lets say). I simply use it because it is better for many of my use-cases than what is out there. That won't stop me from pointing out all the legacy warts and wondering if all this time, money, and effort would not have been better spent on a new OS with a new philosophy that did not carry over the ton of anachronisms and design mistakes from Unix and the surrounding community. I do not even consider most of what is in Linux that interesting or innovative, but I am still glad it exists and most of all can easily appreciate the pragmatism of bringing Unix to the home and affordable business world.
Anyway, look at things for what they are and separate that from your personal beliefs, and it will help you learn even more.