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Overcoming the friendship recession

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Re: Overcoming the friendship recession

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Post by raw_anon_1111 »

My wife and I are in Costa Rica for six weeks to see what it would be like to live here part of the year. We plan to do this at least once a year. This is my plan b to establish residency here if I ever need to do independent consulting instead of working for a consulting company.

Before we even got here we got on Ex pat Facebook groups and once we did get here, we went to a meet and greet and got connected to a few people that we arrange to meet for dinner outside of the official meetup.

The ex pat community is really cool and welcoming.

On a second note, I really don’t want any new “deep connections”. My closest friends I’ve known from between 15-35 years. I am always willing to meet and talk to people just to hang out

Re: Overcoming the friendship recession

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Post by tonyedgecombe »

m463 wrote: post #100
Zealotux wrote: post #25

I live in Barcelona, and during last year’s blackout I wandered through the city. As I passed by the Baix Guinardó gardens, I came across something that felt like a "A Sunday Afternoon on the Island of La Grande Jatte" brought to life: the park was full of families socialising the old way, children running everywhere, the whole place buzzing with chatter and energy. Later that day, walking home through darkened stree…

Your story reminds me of working pre-pandemic, and going on an afternoon walk with a coworker. He was into pokemon go and he wanted to attend an event (raid?) before we walked. I followed him down the street where he stood at a certain deserted spot and waited. All of a sudden, people just started appearing, some from cars, some coming from between the bushes, some walking down the street. the raid started, they all…

I recently read that the Pokémon franchise is more profitable than Star Wars.

I was astounded as I know very little about it.

Re: Overcoming the friendship recession

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Post by rangestransform »

m463 wrote: post #100
Zealotux wrote: post #25

I live in Barcelona, and during last year’s blackout I wandered through the city. As I passed by the Baix Guinardó gardens, I came across something that felt like a "A Sunday Afternoon on the Island of La Grande Jatte" brought to life: the park was full of families socialising the old way, children running everywhere, the whole place buzzing with chatter and energy. Later that day, walking home through darkened stree…

Your story reminds me of working pre-pandemic, and going on an afternoon walk with a coworker. He was into pokemon go and he wanted to attend an event (raid?) before we walked. I followed him down the street where he stood at a certain deserted spot and waited. All of a sudden, people just started appearing, some from cars, some coming from between the bushes, some walking down the street. the raid started, they all…

IMO Pokémon go was the trendy app that actually bucked the trend of social media isolation, I talked to so many randoms that summer

Re: Overcoming the friendship recession

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Post by lionkor »

Make a friend. Keep talking to that friend. Put reminders, say good morning, or write it. Call them, ask how it's going.

Send them a 5 minute audio about something interesting in your day. Schedule a meet up, like you did as kids. "Lets hang out after ~~school~~ work today".

It's not as easy to make friends when you don't meet new people all the time, and it's hard to keep them when you're not forced to see them every day (because of school or something).

Make a friend or maybe two, and do this. It takes effort, but you'll be more fulfilled.

It's okay to just meet up, hang out, watch some YouTube together, play a game, go on a walk, or do legal drugs (coffee, beer, whatever)

Re: Overcoming the friendship recession

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Post by ankaz »

germinalphrase wrote: post #55
sph wrote: post #45

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Have you ever seen those videos filming London streets in the 1970s? They are absolutely packed with groups of two or three people, not going places, but just standing there, chatting, as if they have nowhere else to be. It is something most of us have never experienced in any form and the change has happened over long enough timescales that we are used to our streets of strangers just going about their lives, the ex…

My perspective is very simple: our homes are simply a lot more comfortable than they used to be. We have better heating/air conditioning, endless television/video games/entertainment, large refrigerators, lower density, etc and so on. Back then, home covered a narrower set of needs - so the default option was to spend time elsewhere, even if it was just to escape the noise/heat/smells/smoke of home for a minute.

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Re: Overcoming the friendship recession

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Post by navigate8310 »

tonyedgecombe wrote: post #130
rendaw wrote: post #128

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Were streets the real 3rd places? I always wondered how commoners (?) could afford to go to a pub every day to socialize, or if it was cheap, how the pubs could survive with a bunch of people who were just hanging out day after day.

Wages were much lower. As were property prices. Legislative demands were also simpler.

Laws are only simpler in hindsight

Re: Overcoming the friendship recession

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Post by culopatin »

mettamage wrote: post #3

One thing I read on IG that one couple decided to do in NL was what they call "stoepen" ("stoep" is the Dutch word for sidewalk). They'd get some chairs to their front yard, which is connected to the sidewalk, and they'd greet people and start chatting with them. When vibes clicked they'd invite them to come sit with them, until people got in the habit of sometimes coming by and sitting with them. So there's that. Ob…

Before the big cities of Buenos Aires and Rosario in Argentina got somewhat dangerous, this is what life was like. I remember in the 90s my family having mate and cookies in the afternoon outside their home on the sidewalk and everyone else would wave in and out their homes doing the same. It wasn’t like a cult where everyone did it at the same time, it would vary. Kids would meet after school and run around for a bit, decompress from sitting all day. It was nice.

Re: Overcoming the friendship recession

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Post by skyberrys »

The call to action at the bottom managed to actively give me anxiety. I don't know why I don't tend to call people very much. Anyways, back to making my flyer for community egg hunt. I'm practicing some of the suggestions in the article, let's celebrate small wins.

Re: Overcoming the friendship recession

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Post by Ancalagon »

tonyedgecombe wrote: post #132
m463 wrote: post #100

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Your story reminds me of working pre-pandemic, and going on an afternoon walk with a coworker. He was into pokemon go and he wanted to attend an event (raid?) before we walked. I followed him down the street where he stood at a certain deserted spot and waited. All of a sudden, people just started appearing, some from cars, some coming from between the bushes, some walking down the street. the raid started, they all…

I recently read that the Pokémon franchise is more profitable than Star Wars. I was astounded as I know very little about it.

Not only that, Pokemon is the most profitable franchise of all time: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_highest-grossing_media...
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