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Review: The author uses this article to say why they're not writing as much as they want. They break it down into two reasons: self judgement of quality, and the quality bar set by articles and projects in their sphere of reading. It ends with having acknowledged the issues, the author is ready to write more. Opinion: having seen this with many friends I think the author does good to acknowledge it, but the main thin…
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I know it’s a bit of a personal question, but can you elaborate on your ego diluting experience?
I think it would be really hard to understand without experiencing it. But I will write down anyway. So before dilution I had this strong idea of who I was. I had this back story. There were certain things I do. And certain things I don't do. I used to judge everyone. I had a very high opinion about myself and used to constantly do or find things to validate that. Now I don't have a story in which I live on. Each and…
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What’s wrong with impostor syndrome? Perhaps overused term but that for a good reason, many people are battling the same insecurities while others are confident on hot air. Very few have a backing for being confident.
Because impostor syndrome was a term supposed to describe a medical phenomenon that proved not to exist. Around my parts we call that "bullshit".
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I've been heavily dealing with the existential questions you are referencing but it only gets worse. What helped you in resolving those issues or come to terms with them?
I find that Islam has the most satisfying and complete answers about these existential questions.
I've tried that. I've tried shunting out everyone else's opinions. But then of course, if you lock me in a room with me, myself, and I, you now have 3 of my biggest critics all in the same room.
I don't really care what others think, never really did, and none of these anti-procrastination or anti-perfectionism pieces help when it's my own standards that I'm not meeting.
I have a problem with how procrastination and perfectionism, this sense of being 'not good enough', is almost universally phrased as not being good enough for others . For caring too much about others' opinions. And that the solution is to just Do Art For Yourself :tm:. I've tried that. I've tried shunting out everyone else's opinions. But then of course, if you lock me in a room with me, myself, and I, you now have…
[1] Procrastination - Fuschia M. Sirois PhD [2] Radical Acceptance - Tara Brach
TIL: there are randoms in the world who feel the exact what I feel, on daily basis for past three or four years. It is frustrating. One recent mindset change I have adopted that reduces the feeling of overwhelming is: 1. Say it out loud, "I have plenty of time" and breathe deeply 2. "I have to work within constraint for which I do not have control of" 3. Can things be a lot more worse then they are? Fortunately, the…
> 1. Say it out loud, "I have plenty of time" and breathe deeply The older I get, the less this is true, but the less I stress about it. There’s a great many things I’ll be able to accomplish, but never everything that I would want to. And that is fine.
The older I get the more it is true.
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Happy to hear that worked out for you, that sounds like a great place to be. What facilitated the change though, or how did that happen? Was there a catalyst?
Sorry. I can't write it down because I think what I did was reckless and stupid and I don't want to give any ideas in a high visible thread like this. For a lot of people this is triggered by something unexpected happening in life which breaks the narrative one has been building their entire life. You can search for Spiritual Awakening and find a lot of examples. Buddha at the Gas Pump is a great podcast to listen to…
Worrying what others think resonates with me a lot. Every few weeks I try to motivate myself to write more online (HN, X, blogs) and consistently get “self sabotage” stuck. (Been going on for >2 years) The article just says they pushed through and “put it aside”, but that has never seemed to quite work for me. I can push through once or twice, not enough to build a daily habit/obsession like I want. Anyone have any t…
The act and the process of creating art is what I enjoy. The outcome of that work and sense of accomplishment is fleeting, not that important, and a little out of my hands.
Once I realized this I just make more things, take more chances, and find myself making "better" work than I ever have. So just spend your time doing the thing you like doing. If you don't actually enjoy the process then you probably aren't meant to do it, regardless of the outcome or the accolades.
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> Now I don't have a story in which I live on. Lately, I've had this intuition that we change by sort of tricking ourselves. The mechanism for that change is by settling on like this one kind of character, like someone out of a movie that’s playing in your head, and acting like that person. Then, as time passes, we simply forget who we were before we started acting and the only way we know how to act is as this one c…
Did you experience this or are you guessing? Because I think you are thinking this again through ego. I don't have a thought that I appreciate sunset when I see one. The sunset looks magical. There is a shift in experience. Before watching sunset was like watching in 420p. Now it's 4k. The consciousness is heightened. You only see the sunset. You don't think of old memories of sunset. Or random events from past or th…