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Re: I love my wife. My wife is dead (1946)

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Post by sharadov » Fri, May 31, 2024, 3:40 PM UTC

marttt wrote: post #110

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I am so happy that you were able to build that emotional connection. My dad is terminally ill and often I think about what I will miss most when he is no more. And I realized it would be the depth of emotional connection - a person who knows you in and out and unconditionally loves you. I try to steel myself about the coming eventuality, but all I know is it's going to be a deep abyss and it will take everything to c…

I lost my dad 14 years ago. I hope you get to have as much of the remaining time together as possible. What's odd is that I still don't feel the need to look at photos of him. Like, no need whatsoever. I don't have a photo of my late dad on the wall, even though we had a truly excellent father-son relationship with a lot of warmth. The true memory of him resides in my head; and what's more, I notice myself replicatin…

Thanks for sharing - you were fortunate to have a father who loved you as much as he did.

Re: I love my wife. My wife is dead (1946)

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Post by liquidpele » Fri, May 31, 2024, 3:44 PM UTC

swyx wrote: post #100

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It’s difficult when you want to live three lives in one human lifetime, and academia is one of those careers where that might happen to you.

> academia is one of those careers where that might happen to you why? i dont follow. is academia so special there?

More inclined to always be working because there’s more of a love of what you do… they certainly aren’t doing it for the money lol.

Re: I love my wife. My wife is dead (1946)

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Post by redblacktree » Fri, May 31, 2024, 3:49 PM UTC

f1refly wrote: post #108

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How did you pull your medical records?

I think you can just ask your doctor for them? Why would someone deny you your own medical records?

I wasn't thinking that it would be denied. My curiosity was more with respect to how easy or difficult it is to request them.

Re: I love my wife. My wife is dead (1946)

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Post by kgwgk » Fri, May 31, 2024, 4:22 PM UTC

tdullien wrote: post #118

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> I can see why Feynman became sexually promiscuous afterwards, undoubtedly to numb the pain of losing his wife; seduction allowed him to have a form of that connection, albeit without the depth and love of what he had with his wife. He married again in 1952 and divorced in 1958 (and married again a couple of years later). I don't know if sexual promiscuity was part of the divorce complaint but apparently this fragme…

Iirc at the time there was still "at fault divorce", and the divorce settlement was influenced by who was at fault. So a (likely overly charitable reading) of the entire thing is that Feynman agreed to be portrayed in a bad light to achieve a fairer Deal for his soon to be ex wife.

Maybe it was required to get a divorce at all but otherwise it seems that he could have settled on something “fair” without needing to force himself into it.

Re: I love my wife. My wife is dead (1946)

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Post by therobots927 » Sun, Jun 02, 2024, 11:20 PM UTC

_yb2s wrote: post #83

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How did you acquire the antibiotics?

In this case I already had them- I had previously pulled a muscle that was causing a lot of pain, and a doctor inappropriately prescribed me a course of antibiotics for a physical injury that couldn't possibly be an infection, so I never took them. It really grates me that numerous times I've been inappropriately prescribed antibiotics- but the one time I had a dangerous and debilitating bacterial infection I was una…

Yeah I don’t want to use them inappropriately. That being said I’ve gotten strep recently a couple times, and both times I wished I just had a few to start taking if the symptoms came on at night or over a weekend. That being said last time I had a sore throat it turned out to be Covid, and I was convinced I had strep again. So if I had my own antibiotics it’s possible I would’ve taken them inappropriately.