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I quit my job last March and it was a bad idea.

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Re: I quit my job last March and it was a bad idea.

#131

So, here's my story; I tell it occasionally when stories like yours come up. I had no college experience, but did manage to jump right in to a good I.T. job while I was still in high school, and from there into an even better I.T. job in another state where I made more money than I knew what to do with. (I've never been good with money, and didn't understand what "savings" meant.) I worked there until suddenly one da…

"So, if your friends are giving you a hard time, tell 'em to knock it the hell off. Or find new friends." This. OP: Sounds like your friends are a little insecure or uncomfortable around risk takers like yourself. They're not cut from the same cloth. Truth is, most people in our society aren't. They're play-it-safe types, and to them, stepping outside the lines is tantamount to insanity. Many of these folks will take…

totally agree !

Re: I quit my job last March and it was a bad idea.

#132
Failing is OK as you can see from history: "Caesar served in 63 BC as a quaestor in Spain, where in Cadiz he is said to have broken down and wept in front of a statue of Alexander the Great, realizing that where Alexander had conquered most of the known world at thirty, Caesar at that age was merely seen as a dandy who had squandered his wife's fortunes as well as his own."

You'll be depressed for a while, but soon you realize that you have gained valuable lesson. Failing is something that everybody does, and it's part of everybody's life. (There is a physical reason for this: entropy* )

*http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Entropy

Re: I quit my job last March and it was a bad idea.

#133
The good news is, you're 20. You have plenty of time to recover from this experience. You can even go back to college at this point, graduate, and still only be 24.

The bad news is, 4 months of living expenses is not enough to eject from stable income if you dont have replacement income waiting in the wings. This is something that seems to be overlooked in the folklore of "living on ramen". The fact of the matter is that you need money to live, and if you are worried about where you will live or where your next meal will come from, you will not be in a position to be able to concentrate on any major intellectual endeavors.

Re: I quit my job last March and it was a bad idea.

#134
Get a job, any job, now. No matter how low, just get one. Flip burgers, whatever you can do and regain the most important thing that you seem to have lost, which is your self respect.

Higher paying jobs will come and at some point you'll be able to review this period from a position of strength and you'll appreciate what you learned more than you do now. Starting a consultancy business takes 3 years, you can't just stop work one day and expect to stay afloat. That's the only mistake that I think you made, 4 months is way too short.

The first year you lose money, the second you break even (but you're still below 0 because of the first year), the third year you might make some money closing the hole of the first year.

And get yourself some professional help, being suicidal is a really good reason to do so. Don't wait.

Re: I quit my job last March and it was a bad idea.

#135
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I'm deeply depressed and contemplating suicide If you are having suicidal thoughts then please talk to someone about that now. There are lots of people you can talk to. No matter where you are you can visit http://www.befrienders.org/

I lost a fraternity brother to suicide. Please find help, you have no idea how many people will miss you.

Re: I quit my job last March and it was a bad idea.

#136
Here is a formula I think might work:

1) Discipline and personal activity: wake up and jog/exercise at the exact same time EVERY DAY. Nothing too exhaustive, just 15 to 20 minutes of consistent exercise. Don't miss a day.

2) Keep a journal of plus/delta: what was good and what needs to change during the day. Nothing extremely elaborate, start with a list of things you did during the day or the day before. Take this seriously. Do it in silence and reflect at a consistent time at night or early morning (after exercise).

3) Communications and group activity: join ONE group of interest (meetup perhaps), church, temple etc.

4) Family relationship building: talk to your mother and help your father. Take initiative, do the dishes, contribute to house chores. Don't be a dead beat... seriously, I've been and seen the type. Don't be lazy, help out around the house. You will see relationship improving. "No man is an island" learn to be a part of the family. Parents just want their kids to be decent, if they SEE improvements and efforts from you, they will respond back positively.

5) Read this book: http://www.amazon.com/Mindset-Psychology-Success-Carol-Dweck... If you don't have the money to buy it, give me your address and I WILL buy it for you. Learn the change your mindset into a growth mindset.

6) Go back to basic: NO complain, NO excuses, NO negativity and NO bull.

7) Remember. You are still very young, my friend. Life is long and there is a lot waiting for you. There are thousands of people out there who are willing to help you IF you ask for their help (like the HN community). And most importantly, there is no magic formula for a good life--you'll just have to work for it like everyone else.

My apologies if I made any unwarranted assumptions. I hope what I wrote could be something you might consider. Certain things work for me but they might not work for you. Still, if nothing is working, then try something else. Keep trying until something work for you. What I really want to impress upon you is this: CONSISTENCY and DISCIPLINE. Good luck.

(NOTE: please forgive my quick notes which might contain grammatical and spelling errors. I need to start my morning exercise as I am a bit late :P)

Re: I quit my job last March and it was a bad idea.

#137
Dude, you suck! get yourself up, HURRY, and start being a man! You look like a kid, a dead one, walking. People like you are at everywere, you are not different from your friends and parents, just going for money and cool stuff. That´s why you are suffering. The best genius ever was Jesus, and guess what, he didn´t even have a house!

Re: I quit my job last March and it was a bad idea.

#138
I think your issues are greater than the fact you quit your job. In your previous post you sounded rather noncommittal on your entire career path (coding). What other careers have you explored?

If you don't think you're going to find happiness in your occupation, make sure you try and find a job that you can leave at work. Then find the happiness in your real life.

If you ever feel suicidal please call 1-800-SUICIDE.

Re: I quit my job last March and it was a bad idea.

#139
i just read the article that you linked to. personally you did the right thing by quitting. not for nothing, but you were a slave.

ya things haven't worked out so far, but so what, at least you're not putting in 60 hours a week. what good is money if you don't have the time to spend it. what good is life if all you do is work and never get to enjoy it.

from what i can get, you were a flash/C++ programmer at your previous job.

right now you're trying to find a job. piece of advice, you're really not going to find one (or at least a good one) looking in the paper and/or on job sites... you need to network.

my advice, join a user group for flash, there are many:

http://groups.adobe.com/

start hanging out in the flash message google groups and helping others:

http://groups.google.com/groups/search?hl=en&q=adobe+fla...

get on github and start doing some open source flash stuff and participating in the community:

https://github.com/languages/ActionScript

what i'm trying to tell you is this: a lot of programmers that i know live in a bubble and all they do is program and keep to themselves. the secret in life in getting ahead, being happy and sharpening your skills is to network with others. ever heard the expression, "it's who you know", well it's true.

right now you're so depressed that you forgot this basic life lesson. you need to get out if the rut and jump in head first back into life. you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. not only will networking help with you professional life, it will also help you in your personally life.

i'll tell you this. one of my best friends was in the same situation that you're in, having a hard time finding a job. we both work in an obscure language that most people would laugh at (ColdFusion). for a while now i've been telling him to start doing exactly what i'm telling you do. since taking my advice and finally getting involved he's finally finding quite a bit of free lance work and even has found and applied to a permanent ColdFusion position. opportunities are out there my friend, there not going to present themselves unless you go looking for them.

TLDR: start networking in the flash/c++ communities.

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