eHarmony is disgusting. Or they were, the one time I tried to use their service ten years ago.
My wife and I had been separated for a while and in the divorce process. (We were and remain on friendly terms, but it was definitely over.) I thought I would check out some dating services, and eHarmony sounded like one that wasn't sleazy or weird.
So I filled out their lengthy multipage onboarding form, with all kinds of personal questions where they ask you to write heartfelt essays about various things.
At the beginning they asked my marital status and went on from there through the whole questionnaire. After I entered all of my information and wrote my personal essays, they got to the last page and said:
"Sorry! We don't serve your kind. You are separated! Come back when your divorce is final."
Those weren't the exact words, but that was the message.
Now if a dating site wants to serve only a certain market, and if they don't want to serve people who are separated but not yet fully divorced, I totally respect that! But they need to say it up front after asking your marital status.
Instead, they led me through the entire questionnaire, asking all sorts of personal questions, without even a hint that the very first question about my marital status was going to disqualify me.
And then they offered no way for me to recover any of the information I had just entered into their site: all the essays, personal questions and answers, all gone.
No online service of any type, dating or whatever, should ever do this to anyone.
Luckily, I'd had the sense to copy and paste all my little essays into a text file and not trust them to give them back to me. That just seemed like common sense. But in the case of eHarmony, it was necessary!