No, you are not "running late", you are rude & selfish

Post by pbhjpbhj » Thu, Sep 16, 2010, 2:11 AM UTC

gaius wrote: post #114

nopassrecover wrote: post #104

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Or spend time making themselves look respectful. If people regularly turned up unkempt (unshaved/hair in a mess/yesterday's dinner on their week-worn t-shirt) the article would be complaining about that.

Umm, it is entirely possible to show up on time and looking presentable. Millions of people do it everyday. You are not a precious and unique snowflake.

At the risk of stealing someone's flawed analogy (ctrl+f dyslexia) - just because millions of people are capable of something doesn't mean that everyone is capable of it.

I'm wondering now if there are any studies of time keeping abilities in the self confessed "dyschronic". Some people have (actually) no concept of temporal relationships and can't judge time passing, is it too far a leap to imagine there is a sliding scale of this condition?

Post by martinkallstrom » Fri, Sep 17, 2010, 2:22 PM UTC

kelnos wrote: post #86

martinkallstrom wrote: post #52

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Perhaps the same way dyslectics (sp?) are inconsiderate by always being unable to spell correctly. From time to time, it would be acceptable. Consider that for the person that is always late, it is probably a bigger problem than for you. She has to endure it in all parts of her life. Assuming that the problem is that she simply doesn't care is as ignorant as assuming that a dyslectic simply doesn't care to learn how…

Analogy failure. You can't just compare two things that on the surface may vaguely seem the same, and just assert they are the exact same thing. Dyslexia is a recognized medical (psychological?) condition. Being chronically late is just rudeness, plain and simple. If you constantly lose track of the time, buy a watch. Set an alarm. Use a smartphone with a calendar that will remind you of things. Take responsibility f…

This is a fact: My sister is chronically early. She often winds up arriving to meetings and places about 10-20 minutes ahead of the agreed time. The consequence is hers the bear: she always has to wait for other people, even those arriving on time. The problem is compounded by some of her friends having the opposite problem, always arriving late.

I'm fully aware that being chronically to early or to late is not a recognized medical condition. Research at this point merely concludes that the downsides of chronically lateness is too great for laziness or procrastination being the major driving force.

Dyslexia is categorized neither as a medical or psychological condition, but as a "learning disorder". It is my belief that research will come to a point where

You are correct that it is rude to be late. Rudeness is defines by culture and in my culture (and I suppose yours) it is rude to be late. It is not a universal thruth however, as other posters have stated, since cultural differences exist.

All of the above tells me that chronical lateness is not "just rude". There is more to it, which makes it a far more interesting phenomenon than most other kinds of rudeness.

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