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Signals take an infinte amount of time to reach a distant observer from just outside the event horizon. Which means we cannot see the event horizon or what is beyond, and we cannot also 'see' the event horizon being formed, or any matter crossing the event horizon. When the star collapses, light takes progressively longer to reach an outside observer, and eventually becomes too dim to detect. The same thing happens w…
>we cannot also 'see' the event horizon being formed I think what you're saying here is the confusing part. If no observer in the universe can ever witness a black hole being formed, it stands to reason they cannot exist (within the reference frame of observers outside it). Now I'm not asserting this as true or not, because I wouldn't assert such contrarian conclusions on a subject I have not properly studied; rather…
Also its gravitational effects can be detected, so that is another reason why merely claiming a black hole doesn't exist, or never forms, seems to rather miss the mark.