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Re: The relationship between social media use and well-being

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>I don't know if I agree that the best arguments result in agreement between opponents. They don't end in agreement, they begin with cooperation; you might not resolve the argument, or your position might prevail, or even change. As you say, there is no argument to be had in some cases, there is no reason. I'm talking about a methodology, rather than an outcome; you can still disagree. That said, in the case of somet…

Hmmm.... I think that a lot of these "people jumped on me on social media!" anecdotes aren't because people said they preferred Spartacus over Game of Thrones (Spartacus is way way better btw), but because they got involved in one of those debates that is tantamount to a fight. Like abortion, or wealth inequality, or police brutality, or gay rights, or race and IQ.

Exactly... some arguments you can only have with people you know very well... and sometimes not even then. We're only human after all, and the tribalism runs deep. If you try to have a reasonable discussion with someone about certain topics, the whole thing goes nuclear. It takes a lot of work from two people with wildly opposing views for that not to happen.

Re: The relationship between social media use and well-being

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post #60

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If they, or someone else close to you, doesn't inform you of a major life event like that outside of Facebook, maybe those people aren't anywhere near as close as you believe them to be.

So your policy is to trim as many of your loose acquaintances away as possible? I was under the impression that having loose ties is important for various reasons in life, assuming they aren't taking up significant mindshare with non-essential things. (Then it's not really a 'loose tie')

If it's a loose tie, it's not a big deal that I don't know about their big life milestones. Sometimes I hear through the grape vine, but if not then the next time I see them we have a lot of catching up to do!

Would rather offer congrats in person than write a generic message on their social media wall.

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