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I've been self-hosting my email for over 10 years now (I'm going to link a bunch of my old comments on old email HN threads). I have fallen back to using Amazon's SES to send because all of Digital Ocean's IP blocks suddenly got marked as bad and I don't have enough volume to improve a new IP reputation - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=39891262 , https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=38471262 I use Gmail as a fr…
I've been self-hosting my email for over 10 years now (I'm going to link a bunch of my old comments on old email HN threads). I have fallen back to using Amazon's SES to send because all of Digital Ocean's IP blocks suddenly got marked as bad and I don't have enough volume to improve a new IP reputation - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=39891262 , https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=38471262 I use Gmail as a fr…
Long winded admission that you might as well pay for google's email service.
Receive only (e.g. account signup)? Use your own account. Not important anyway? Use your own account. Your recipient needs the email more than you? Use your own account. None of the above? Use a mainstream provider for that email only.
I've been self-hosting my email for over 10 years now (I'm going to link a bunch of my old comments on old email HN threads). I have fallen back to using Amazon's SES to send because all of Digital Ocean's IP blocks suddenly got marked as bad and I don't have enough volume to improve a new IP reputation - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=39891262 , https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=38471262 I use Gmail as a fr…
Long winded admission that you might as well pay for google's email service.
Not to mention I use a separate email per service so I can tell if there's a data breach (usually end up seeing an uptick in spam).
*Edit: Not to mention I can pay for a relay service other than Amazon SES without using Google's services, and for significantly less.
I used to do this. What finally killed it wasn't reputation, it was the fact that I needed 100% uptime or risk losing messages, getting my address blacklisted, etc. Email is supposed to be resilient to down time (retries, trying each MX record, etc.) but I found that large mail providers tend to just bounce and walk away. Worse, GitHub (back in 2016 and 2018) would mark a recipient as "unavailable" after a single bou…
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Long winded admission that you might as well pay for google's email service.
And use it only for important things that won't be delivered if you don't send them from Google. Receive only (e.g. account signup)? Use your own account. Not important anyway? Use your own account. Your recipient needs the email more than you? Use your own account. None of the above? Use a mainstream provider for that email only.
I tried this over a period of years, aggressively changing my email server configuration as new challenges appeared, before realizing the basic problems were (a) a server's configuration is a moving target that requires constant revision, and (b) if your ISP has ever hosted a spammer, even briefly and inadvertently, then its entire address block may be universally blacklisted and you have to change ISPs, possibly several times.
So ... I gave up. If I had nothing better to do, if I just wanted to play email server whack-a-mole, that would be different, but I have a life apart from pleading with giant email recipients to trust my little server.
It's not as though Google, Microsoft, et al. have an incentive to trust small email servers -- quite the opposite. They can -- and do -- make the argument that they shouldn't trust anything but another big player like themselves.
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> treat self-hosting like a hobby and learn to enjoy it. This is why I have stepped away from a lot of my self hosting. I have turned my attention/time elsewhere. Apparently though the time/money balance is shifting a bit again, so it may be worth it to go back. My biggest hesitance to self hosting email specifically is dealing with spam. What does that look like these days and do you have any pointers to share?
I’m not sure that there is any pre made product for this, but I’ve been playing around with LLMs to identify spam, or just generally sorting emails for you. And even the self hosted models seem to be pretty good at classifying emails even without external information like spam blacklists or IP reputation.