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Re: Dull Men’s Club

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Post by [deleted] »

kgwxd wrote: post #93
bonoboTP wrote: post #85

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I obviously don't know anything about you beyond this comment but you chose to include a mention of your divorce, so I think it's not overstepping to try to connect these themes. To be blunt, could it be that being less dull would have improved the longevity of the marriage?

> in fact when I try to amuse my colleagues or the opposite sex, my jokes regularly fall flat Even the dullest of innocent jokes, delivered horribly, can get a chuckle in decent company. "Falls flat" means the "jokes" are inappropriate, mean, gross, *ist, etc. The phrase "colleagues or the opposite sex" is a tell.

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Re: Dull Men’s Club

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Post by tboyd47 »

knowitnone wrote: post #120
tboyd47 wrote: post #110

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> But after my kids were born I noticed something: my kids loved my voice, they listened to every sentence I made, they laughed at my quirky jokes I made and they loved when I sang to them or I brought them to the park or to the nursery and when I sat them on my neck. My wife took all that from me though, so now I need to fight to get my kids back. You call yourself dull, but this short comment revealed the opposite…

"someone" we all know who but everyone is afraid to say it

If he doesn't feel comfortable to name his abuser, I won't step forward to do it. It's his tale to tell.

Re: Dull Men’s Club

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Post by AuthorizedCust »

altacc wrote: post #76
AlecSchueler wrote: post #74

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Except this one is gendered, so somewhat more exclusive?

I don't think it's exclusive. There is no gate keeping and there seems to be a high ratio of female post creators and commentators. Reddit is 60/40 male dominated, so is also skewered towards male content. Personally I see the name as more a jokey play on the stereotype of boring middle aged men who find such things interesting.

> Personally I see the name as more a jokey play on the stereotype of boring middle aged men who find such things interesting.

#nailedit

Re: Dull Men’s Club

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Post by AuthorizedCust »

freetime2 wrote: post #66
ecshafer wrote: post #8

The Dull Men's Club group of facebook is actually oddly interesting. I would classify it more as a group who point out the very small oddities of every day life that are not very interesting. There is a post where someone saw two geese with 42 bay geese, another where the rental company fixed a door with a piece of pool noodle. Its more like a "huh that's kind of weird I guess" group.

Recently some spinoff/copycat groups have also sprouted up. There’s a “Dull Men’s Forum”, and a “Dull Men’s Fun Club”, for example, which post similar memes. And a “Dull Women’s Club” as well (even though I also often see women posting in the Dull Men’s Club, I suppose women on average have different sensibilities about where to draw the line between dull and interesting). I view this as a sign that the group has bec…

Some of these are _pages_ that post content stolen from "dull" groups or from other groups that are thematically not far off, like Aldi fan groups. As your view includes pages that are just mass-theft operations seeking Facebook payouts, you have selection bias.

Re: Dull Men’s Club

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Post by AuthorizedCust »

gambiting wrote: post #30
ecshafer wrote: post #8

The Dull Men's Club group of facebook is actually oddly interesting. I would classify it more as a group who point out the very small oddities of every day life that are not very interesting. There is a post where someone saw two geese with 42 bay geese, another where the rental company fixed a door with a piece of pool noodle. Its more like a "huh that's kind of weird I guess" group.

I had to block it because I realized it just completely overtook my feed and 99% of it was in that "interesting but ultimately forgettable within 30 seconds of reading it" zone that's filling up social media. I mean it lived up to its name - it's very "dull" if vaguely interesting.

I cannot think of anything better than a 99% dull feed.

Part of the point of DMC content is a solace from everyday stressors. That's a factor in why divisive topics--politics, religion, etc.--are discouraged when "main points" of a post.

Re: Dull Men’s Club

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Post by AuthorizedCust »

mafro wrote: post #68

One of the few Facebook groups I stayed in over time. It has a very British sense of self-deprecating humour. We're all amused by our mutual dullness.

Would you believe both Dull Men's Club groups were created by Americans?

No kidding.

The one with the registered-trademark symbol--a Nebraskan who moved to the UK.

The other one--a Texan.

Re: Dull Men’s Club

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Post by dyauspitr »

rester324 wrote: post #77

I am a dull man by every measure. I don't have interesting hobbies, I am not an influencer, I don't post interesting posts on social media and I don't travel a lot, I don't do extreme things, I barely have any money at the moment, I bore others, in fact when I try to amuse my colleagues or the opposite sex, my jokes regularly fall flat and even my voice is dull I believe. But after my kids were born I noticed somethi…

Removal of the no fault divorce law can’t come fast enough.

Re: Dull Men’s Club

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Post by castlecrasher2 »

hug wrote: post #49
_fat_santa wrote: post #31

This is a cool concept but I have an issue with one being "dull" on a conceptual level. Personally I think that every single person on earth is both the dullest person you have ever met and the most interesting person on earth, it just depends on your perspective. I have friends that play DnD which I personally find very dull but hearing them talk about it, it's clear they do not see it the same way. Conversely I lov…

I don't know why this perspective bothers me so much, but it does. This idea that people are alternatively dull or interesting feels wrong to me, on a kind of visceral level. So far so that I'm having trouble marshaling my thoughts enough that I can tell you why . It's like there's an intuition gap so large I'm getting vertigo. Nothing here is intended to say that the way you feel about it is invalid, but I need to w…

You're both saying the same thing. Seemingly dull people become interesting depending on the audience, particularly when the dullee actively interviews the duller.

Re: Dull Men’s Club

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Post by failingslowly »

__alias wrote: post #72
ecshafer wrote: post #8

The Dull Men's Club group of facebook is actually oddly interesting. I would classify it more as a group who point out the very small oddities of every day life that are not very interesting. There is a post where someone saw two geese with 42 bay geese, another where the rental company fixed a door with a piece of pool noodle. Its more like a "huh that's kind of weird I guess" group.

My fave I remember seeing years ago was one where a man - over some long period of time - managed to park in every single parking space of a supermarket. I feel like this energy perfectly encapsulates what dull mans club is all about

I think that's fantastic. The dedication to such a trivial accomplishment!

I suppose it's no different to people that grind computer games to get 100% completion. A little dopamine hit each time that number edges up, followed by the satisfaction of having finally completed a long-sought goal.

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