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You need to switch the drivers from WDM to ASIO. Most DAWs have this as an explicit choice with WDM as the default.
I think WASAPI has comparable latency to ASIO drivers. I can get around 20-30ms latency with WASAPI though ASIO takes me down to 10-15. Granted I'm using a dedicated USB audio interface though.
Yes, sub-ms latency is hard. But the infrastructure exists.