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Some terrible personal news

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Re: Some terrible personal news

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Is that....weird? My coworker has worked here for 25 years now, and he's still "just" a programmer, was never interested in taking a managerial/lead position. There's plenty of programmers who have 10~20 years of seniority here. And it's a games company, so it's not like these people work on some archaic systems - major, triple A releases everyone heard about.

At my company anyone here less than 10 years is a newbie. You're not an old timer until you reach 30 years, and a few grandees make it to 50. It's a big old company though (one of the oldest in the field), and this is in broadcast engineering which is far more conservative. IME Peoppe in the Internet facing parts are far more flitty. While some older engineers are happy to retreat into comfortably old technologies li…

My father is a network engineer, and has more or less been working in the same company for over 30 years now. He started as a radio technician out of high school, and transitioned into internet networking in the early 90's.

Technically, he's worked for several different companies. For a while he was working for a different company, but doing exactly the same work, with the same people, in the same building.

I don't think it will be easy to replace network engineers like him, who have been doing the job literally as long as the consumer internet has existed.

Re: Some terrible personal news

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I lost my wife suddenly in 2009, she was 34. Losing your significant other is something that you never get over - you live with the emptiness and the hurt, and you learn to move on and hope that the "fog" eventually lifts. It's something that only someone else who has been through the same experience will understand. I was lucky to meet a friend who had lost her husband a couple years before, and she helped me throug…

I lost my mom in 2001. One week after 9/11. I was 6. I often wonder if I would have been a better person if she was there.

I know the slightest glimse of death later last year when my parents came to visit me in the US. We had a great time, but I know they're living on borrowed time. I just hope I could do more for them. I am 30 now and my mind still can't make peace with that.

You're a strong person.

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Please do see a psychologist. Depending on your personal background you may find this advice offensive or annoying, but give it a try.

Reading my comment, I can understand why you'd advise this. I think it's unnecessary at this point because I understand a lot more about myself that I didn't before and was getting to a good place just before I met her. Thankfully, never had been suicidal or anything like that. Thanks for the concern though. :)

I'm not talking about being suicidal, I'm talking about being dependent - but of course it is your call. I always thought of my marriage as something of an unbreakable sacred wonder that "fixed me" for good, but looking back now I'm not exactly sure about it. Funny thing is that if someone told me this, I would've laughed at him or just dismissed the theory alltogether.

Re: Some terrible personal news

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I don't know about anyone else, but if my partner suddenly died, I would be a complete non-functioning wreck for weeks (if not months). I have no idea how Matt found the wherewithal to sit down and write that blog post. I know I couldn't.

Re: Some terrible personal news

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I lost my wife suddenly in 2009, she was 34. Losing your significant other is something that you never get over - you live with the emptiness and the hurt, and you learn to move on and hope that the "fog" eventually lifts. It's something that only someone else who has been through the same experience will understand. I was lucky to meet a friend who had lost her husband a couple years before, and she helped me throug…

It's a thing that taints life with a glow of absurdity. I hope your (and matt's) scar will shrink a bit, even though this is the kind of scar you don't want to heal at the same time.

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I do feel sorry for the guy. I really do. But how is it possible that one guy's tragedy got to the front page of HN? Why everyone's talking about his wife, but not about others, who probably left family and friends in grief the same way.

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After reading the very small amount of information provided about the reason for her passing, I can't help but be curious about the exact reason. Sometimes it's comforting to know that something was a freak accident, versus something preventable. Does anyone know what might have happened in this case? I certainly hope this isn't perceived as being insensitive. I can't imagine the pain he's going through, and I truly…

Given her age, recent travel, and progression of symptoms, it seems very likely it was an acute pulmonary embolism.
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