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> Having children has made me happier and more fulfilled in ways that I could never have imagined. That's my main problem with it, it's super selfish to procreate. I don't feel I have the right to force new life (with all the pain and suffering that entails) onto this world for the sake of making me happy. I love my potential children too much to do that to them.
That's rediculous. For most people, having children is the most selfless possible thing. Kids are extremely expensive.
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> Having children has made me happier and more fulfilled in ways that I could never have imagined. That's my main problem with it, it's super selfish to procreate. I don't feel I have the right to force new life (with all the pain and suffering that entails) onto this world for the sake of making me happy. I love my potential children too much to do that to them.
I think this is probably the most self-indulgent thing I've ever read.
How is it not self-indulgent to have a child to fulfill your own sense of purpose?
You are utterly alien to a lot of people.
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That's rediculous. For most people, having children is the most selfless possible thing. Kids are extremely expensive.
Some night even argue that not having kids is selfish.
People argue all kinds of insane things.
Having kids to fulfill your own sense of purpose is very selfish.
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> If you lack confidence and need frameworks, abstractions, and other bullshit to write a couple lines of code you will be a weaker programmer So you like to reinvent everything? Do you reinvent HTML & CSS because they are FRAMEWORKS, one of the foundational frameworks of today's web. If your job only ask you to fix a bug, there here is how to make yourself valuable AND technically challenging: * go through the bugs…
Perhaps if you wrote software in addition to doing that which is strictly assigned to you your question would answer itself. This isn't rocket science.
> If you aren't independently finding new problems to solve then you will be a weaker programmer than somebody who is constantly stepping up their game.
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> There have been times where I've tried to sit down and work on something but it's no fun when there's a strong feeling of "I should be spending this time with my family". That doesn't sound like a recommendation for becoming a parent. In fact it sounds the opposite - "don't have children, or you'll guilt yourself out of every other thing you could be doing".
Well life is about choices. People are free not to have children. But yes, when you do you bear a certain level of responsibility to them. I think a lot of people would characterize sitting in your office building CRUD apps every night so that you have a sweet green GitHub calendar while your kids sit alone on the couch watching TV as an abdication of that responsibility.
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#126This study seems to be asking, "What makes a great Microsoft software engineer," given their sample cohort.
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Some night even argue that not having kids is selfish.
> Some night even argue that not having kids is selfish. People argue all kinds of insane things. Having kids to fulfill your own sense of purpose is very selfish.
On the flip flip side, there is some chance your child may take 1 or more lives.
Arguing about the selfishness of procreation is silly. It is your biological purpose. Whether you choose to run with that or not is down to you. It is not selfish if you choose whatever way.
As a parent, my children come first. I would die for them. You make that choice when you have children. That is NOT selfish.
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I think this is probably the most self-indulgent thing I've ever read.
Is it just a coincidence that there was an article about this very thing a few days ago here? https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=15869983
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> Having children has made me happier and more fulfilled in ways that I could never have imagined. That's my main problem with it, it's super selfish to procreate. I don't feel I have the right to force new life (with all the pain and suffering that entails) onto this world for the sake of making me happy. I love my potential children too much to do that to them.
That's rediculous. For most people, having children is the most selfless possible thing. Kids are extremely expensive.
Give one reason to have children that doesn't include words like "I want".
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That's rediculous. For most people, having children is the most selfless possible thing. Kids are extremely expensive.
Use our planets limited resources because you think your DNA needs to survive ? Of course it's selfish. Give one reason to have children that doesn't include words like "I want".
Wanting something isn't selfish. It entirely depends on what it is you actually want.
Oh yes, you could argue from a hardcore libertarian stance that altruism does not exist and every action is inherently selfish but is that a good way of looking at the world? I think not.