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Can you fundraise in Silicon Valley while pregnant?

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Re: Can you fundraise in Silicon Valley while pregnant?

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Post by tedmiston »

__abc wrote: post #92
x0x0 wrote: post #83

Earlier quoted context omitted.

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=7779598

Other things I've added is putting my phone on a shelf when I come home and only answering emails after my kids have gone to bed and my wife and I have had some time to hang out. I also take two lunches a week where I hit the gym and go two additional times (in the evening and once in the morning on the weekends). My point being, the business I help run is thriving, dates/goals are being met, people are happy, and th…

Good for you. I think more people should embrace this kind of adaptability and prioritization as startup employees as well as founders (at least founders beyond the early stage).

Re: Can you fundraise in Silicon Valley while pregnant?

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Post by wpietri »

Diamons wrote: post #109
CalRobert wrote: post #97

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"I think women make better caretakers. A father can stay home and be the caretaker, but I think a mother will have a more positive nurturing influence on the child's life if she is there as much as she can be." You can think that, but it is most certainly not going to be accepted as fact by the many caretaker fathers out there. Nor, I believe, can you take it for granted that mothers in heterosexual two-parent househ…

Yes. Nature and evolution itself tells us that its optimal to be raised by a mother and a father. To argue otherwise would be to argue against evolution.

This is horseshit. Evolution also says you're supposed to die in your 30s, wracked with parasites and diseases. But my guess is you "argue against evolution" every goddamn day when you brush your teeth. Two obvious problems:

One is your indulging in the naturalistic fallacy, aka the is-ought fallacy. What exists tells us nothing about what's right. If it did, then change would always be wrong. It's a big philosophical mistake, especially in one built around creating technological change.

The other is you're creating the sort of evolutionary "just-so story" that Gould called out as early as 1978. You have a personal fantasy that in our evolutionary environment each child was actively raised by a mother and a father. Is this based on careful examination of hominid fossils? No. It's based on very particular Western late 20th-century ideals of what a "family" is.

What you're doing isn't science. Its dressing your unconsidered prejudices up in a lab coat. And then using the authority of science to push a particular social agenda that involves keeping women at home. That's 100% horseshit.

Re: Can you fundraise in Silicon Valley while pregnant?

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Post by hythloday »

Diamons wrote: post #109
CalRobert wrote: post #97

Earlier quoted context omitted.

"I think women make better caretakers. A father can stay home and be the caretaker, but I think a mother will have a more positive nurturing influence on the child's life if she is there as much as she can be." You can think that, but it is most certainly not going to be accepted as fact by the many caretaker fathers out there. Nor, I believe, can you take it for granted that mothers in heterosexual two-parent househ…

Yes. Nature and evolution itself tells us that its optimal to be raised by a mother and a father. To argue otherwise would be to argue against evolution.

And yet research tells us that two fathers raise children who are as well adapted in every way as ones raised by a father and a mother, and that two mothers raise children who're better adapted.

(I find it slightly hilarious that you think that children had only two raisers In The Ancestral Environment.)

Re: Can you fundraise in Silicon Valley while pregnant?

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Post by mboer »

This is a thread of generalizations heaped upon already heavily beleaguered minorities, given that most people who suffer from these generalizations are women and trans men.

Here are some links, to pieces regarding people who have had kids and startups, really the only people who're qualified to comment on the subject, and you can choose to educate yourselves (or, you know, not):

http://www.californiababy.com/meet-jessica.html

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/06/10/business/nurturing-a-baby-...

http://mamalode.com/story/detail/an-interview-with-michelle-...

http://fortune.com/2015/06/22/founder-startup-hidden-pregnan...

http://thenextweb.com/insider/2016/02/05/tinsel-founder-aniy...

This is your bonus piece: http://madamenoire.com/599068/pregnant-woman-finishes-psych-...

Finally, I'm going share a story about my friend from grad school who wrote her thesis while 7-9 months pregnant, landed a tenure track faculty position in the physics department of the university where she teaches straight out of grad school, gave birth, returned to successfully defend her thesis, and she currently has 2 incredible children and a 25-person lab. Her partner is a very talented chef. So, you know, two demanding careers.

I honestly don't even know what else to say, other than suggest that a better more fruitful question would be, "What can be done to help technical founders who are pregnant and/or have families?"

Re: Can you fundraise in Silicon Valley while pregnant?

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Post by st3v3r »

facepalm wrote: post #100
st3v3r wrote: post #70

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Because it's nobody's business what the home life plans are.

What makes you entitled to receiving somebodies money, though? If they feel they want to know about your home life, and you don't want to tell, why should they be obliged to give you money? It's fine if you want to keep it private, but other people have the right to spend their money as they wish, too.

Nobody said anything about being entitled to someone else's money. So put that straw man away.

Re: Can you fundraise in Silicon Valley while pregnant?

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Post by facepalm »

st3v3r wrote: post #125
facepalm wrote: post #100

Earlier quoted context omitted.

What makes you entitled to receiving somebodies money, though? If they feel they want to know about your home life, and you don't want to tell, why should they be obliged to give you money? It's fine if you want to keep it private, but other people have the right to spend their money as they wish, too.

Nobody said anything about being entitled to someone else's money. So put that straw man away.

The article is about raising money.

Re: Can you fundraise in Silicon Valley while pregnant?

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Post by st3v3r »

facepalm wrote: post #126
st3v3r wrote: post #125

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Nobody said anything about being entitled to someone else's money. So put that straw man away.

The article is about raising money.

Which is not being entitled to someone else's money.

Re: Can you fundraise in Silicon Valley while pregnant?

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Post by facepalm »

st3v3r wrote: post #127
facepalm wrote: post #126

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The article is about raising money.

Which is not being entitled to someone else's money.

If you say you should receive the same offers, it translates to "being entitled to" receiving the same offers.

Re: Can you fundraise in Silicon Valley while pregnant?

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Post by xchip »

rayiner wrote: post #15
xchip wrote: post #7

Any stress the mother suffers will be passed down to the baby... "There are some data to show that higher chronic stressors in women and poor coping skills to deal with those stressors may be associated with lower birth weight and with delivering earlier," says Ann Borders, MD, MPH, MSc. She is an OB/GYN in the obstetrics and gynecology department, Division of Maternal-Fetal Medicine, at Evanston Hospital, NorthShore…

What's the actual long-term impact on the child?

I suggest you should do some research. I wouldn't take risks/ try any experiments though :)
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