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Your second kid only takes half the effort. Half it again for a third. New parents always try to be perfect. It takes a while for them to get pragmatic.
I hope so. People around us either share your opinion or say they compound on each other in terms of work.
Modern anxious parenting often tries to prevent every conflict, disappointment, boredom, risk and bad feeling.
Pragmatic parenting accepts that kids need to hear:
No. Not now. That’s enough. You’ll survive. Go play. Eat what’s there. Bedtime. Sort it out. I love you, but the answer is still no.