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Remind HN: Today is Mother's Day, call your moms

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Re: Remind HN: Today is Mother's Day, call your moms

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I disagree a bit somehow with the statement as it's a bit too generic, in my perspective, I do owe my parents care when they get older (I don't care about laws, talking about morality), I wouldn't send them in a home waiting for them to die, they'll live with me and my wife until they die, I understand that many might disagree with this, and it's fair if you had shit parents, but if you had parents that genuinely car…

You might feel an obligation , but you don't "owe" them anything. It's pedantic but there's a subtle difference. Doing something for someone because you're grateful for them is fine. I like my parents, I might take care of them when they get older, but I'm doing that because I like them. > Can you really consider yourself a good kid if you just let them die in a center? In my eyes, no. Ironically, I think this is too…

Yeah I've put a specific "clause" for shitty parents, shitty parents deserve no support in the end (imo).

My main argument is really that in the West, we are going too far away from the grateful mentality and it's scary and even absurd to see the number of parents that die alone (I'm talking about good parents), I find it sad and immoral in many scenarios.

I use the word owe because it's a moral code thing, the same way as I owe my wife & children lifetime promises and support (but not obligated right?), it's not something really negotiable in my head and I don't really intend to change it.

I vow the same thing for my own children and I hope I'll do genuinely a good job, enough for them to feel that they owe me the support when I'm old. Think about the gift you do to a loving mother to let her die surrounded with her own kids, nothing is more important in life than this in the end, as you get older, no career or money matters, probably only family does (again, talking only about good parents, shitty ones aren't included in this kind of discussion)

Re: Remind HN: Today is Mother's Day, call your moms

#112

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You might feel an obligation , but you don't "owe" them anything. It's pedantic but there's a subtle difference. Doing something for someone because you're grateful for them is fine. I like my parents, I might take care of them when they get older, but I'm doing that because I like them. > Can you really consider yourself a good kid if you just let them die in a center? In my eyes, no. Ironically, I think this is too…

Yeah I've put a specific "clause" for shitty parents, shitty parents deserve no support in the end (imo). My main argument is really that in the West, we are going too far away from the grateful mentality and it's scary and even absurd to see the number of parents that die alone (I'm talking about good parents), I find it sad and immoral in many scenarios. I use the word owe because it's a moral code thing, the same…

I think it's certainly fine to be grateful for your parents if you like them. I had pretty ok parents so if they need help as they get older I'll probably help where I can.

I guess I just get a little annoyed that people act like you are supposed to. I didn't choose to be born, and as far as I am aware neither did the other eight billion on this planet. The parents were the ones who brought the kids into the world. The kids are their responsibility, not the other way around.

Re: Remind HN: Today is Mother's Day, call your moms

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Also, Mother's Day is May 9th next year. If you do want to mail a card next year, I recommend making a calendar entry now to remind you to buy (or make) a card and mail it so it arrives in time, or at least least make a calendar entry to call her on the day of.

Re: Remind HN: Today is Mother's Day, call your moms

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She despises me for being gay. Not a chance I'm calling her.

I don't know you, but I'm happy that you get to be you. If you wouldn't be friends with your family members, then why would you spend time with them? As far as parents go, they chose to have me, I didn't choose them. Not all people are good, and just because you are related to them doesn't mean it's healthy to have them in your life. Enjoy your day!

Re: Remind HN: Today is Mother's Day, call your moms

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Before I got married and had kids I thought it was a dumb Hallmark holiday. Now I think it's really significant and important to have an official day dedicated to recognize all the moms out there. Happy mother's day to all the moms out there. And all the guys that made them moms :)

Each child is biologically required to have a mother. Fatherhood is a well-regarded theory, but motherhood is a fact.

P. J. O'Rourke

Re: Remind HN: Today is Mother's Day, call your moms

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Before I got married and had kids I thought it was a dumb Hallmark holiday. Now I think it's really significant and important to have an official day dedicated to recognize all the moms out there. Happy mother's day to all the moms out there. And all the guys that made them moms :)

Each child is biologically required to have a mother. Fatherhood is a well-regarded theory, but motherhood is a fact. P. J. O'Rourke

This is not true on just so many levels. Lots of people have mothers not worthy of the name. I don't know exactly what fatherhood being a theory and motherhood being a fact means but I struggle to find any that isn't offensive to fathers.
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