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> Too much psychology talk in every day life I'm curious to hear how often do you hear it in every day life outside of the internet.
It definitely does feel like every American I know "has a therapist", sometimes.
... the selves of 'self-help' books I found utterly bizarre. It was very much an eye-opener into the differences of our cultures.
> One of those taboo subjects was male vulnerability and mental health problems. (emphasis is mine) I would argue that still in 2025 this is an extreme and institutionalized taboo.
I neither like the taboo nor the opposite. Too much psychology talk in every day life, everyone is traumatised and has unresolved issues etc. That may be, but I wish we would handle it all more privately...
We take it for granted that virtually no one will make it through life without ever sustaining a serious or enduring physical injury. Why is it so implausible to say that practically everyone can expect to eventually have to deal with at least one significant mental injury, too?
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> Too much psychology talk in every day life I'm curious to hear how often do you hear it in every day life outside of the internet.
At work, like all the time? Empowerment, values, growth mindset, psychological safety, mindfulness, emotional intelligence...
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I don't think there's any redefinition here, and it's exactly this dichotomy that makes this a big issue. Vulnerability is indeed not "a good thing", but the issue is that the struggle to constantly keep yourself invulnerable at all times is a "worse thing", leading to many stress-related issues (amongst other problems). So the modern psychological advice, as I understand it, is to find particular people, spaces and…
I guess the question is -> why do we need that guard in the first place? Is this about other people being immature or looking to abuse us? Is this something that generally goes beyond school?
The things that make you vulnerable change depending on what year and situation you're in. I can very much get behind the idea that you should consider whether your legacy sense of what makes you vulnerable is relevant to your current circumstances. I'm not so much behind the "freely dispense the rope people will use to hang you" version.
> [Holmes] battles with drug addiction, loneliness and depression. His genius thrives in part because of these vulnerabilities, not despite them. If there was a pill for that, how many masterpieces like the Sherlock Holmes books would never be made? The products of misery have always been the devil's advocate's best arguments. If Doyle had not sympathized with Holmes' afflictions, he could not have written him. Or if…
For every tortured genius whose passion comes from pain, there's a hundred who never get started because they lack the energy to get out of bed half the time, are slowly killing themselves with alcohol and other substances, and so on. But a pill alone doesn't fix that -- hell, current research shows most of those pills do no better than a placebo -- so the mythology of the nobility of suffering will continue for some…
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It definitely does feel like every American I know "has a therapist", sometimes.
I recall when I first visited the USA and walked into an American bookshop... ... the selves of 'self-help' books I found utterly bizarre. It was very much an eye-opener into the differences of our cultures.
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> Too much psychology talk in every day life I'm curious to hear how often do you hear it in every day life outside of the internet.
In all fairness, the internet is for many people a near 100% part of their life. Especially for people working remotely without a family.
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At work, like all the time? Empowerment, values, growth mindset, psychological safety, mindfulness, emotional intelligence...
Half of these aren't people talking about mental health problems , but preconditions for mental health. That's your problem?
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It definitely does feel like every American I know "has a therapist", sometimes.
I used to think that therapists were ridiculous. But after having one for six or seven years now, I realize that it’s literally just someone you pay to help you be the happiest and best version of yourself. Maybe everyone doesn’t need that, but I don’t think anyone is inherently always the best version of themselves. What’s the point of not trying to be a little better?