Their architecture is internet bandwidth heavy and storage heavy; these are some of the most expensive things in AWS. You probably want to use a different provider for those things.
> It turns out that when AWS says an instance can do “Up to 12.5 Gbps”, that’s burstable networking backed by credits; when you’re below the baseline, you accrue credits and can burst for short periods.
Yes, AWS has a burst rating and a sustained/baseline rating for both EBS types as well as instance types. Use https://instances.vantage.sh/ (and make sure you choose specific columns) to compare specific criteria and then export as a CSV to find the lowest price that matches your performance/feature/platform criteria. Design to the baseline if you need guaranteed performance. Do sustained performance testing.
> When we Terminated connections idle >10 minutes, memory dropped by ~1 GB immediately; confirming the leak was from dangling sockets. Fix: make sockets short-lived and enforce time limits.
We used to do that with Apache 20 years ago. Config option forces a forked subchild to exit after N requests to avoid the inevitable memory leaks. AKA the Windows 95 garbage collector (a reboot a day keeps the slowness at bay).
FWIW, if the business feasibility of your architecture depends on custom stuff, performance enhancements, etc, you will find that you eventually have harder and harder problems to solve to keep your business functioning. It's more reliable to waste money on a solution that is brainless, than invest human ingenuity/technical mastery in a solution that is frugal.