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Re: No Instagram, no privacy

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Post by asdff »

alistairSH wrote: post #100

Approaching zero of my friends are on Meta any more. Most have inactive accounts; a few have canceled outright. Those that are “active” are mostly limited to wishing each other happy birthday. Afaic, Meta pretty much killed their platforms by pumping rage-bait clicks instead of social content.

No one is active on social media anymore like they were in college or high school. People just age out or get too busy for that kind of stuff. They might lurk but posts are pretty rare for most people who would have been posting 3 times a day 15 years ago. I'm not sure if the younger generation is actually active anymore or if they also just lurk now. Dead internet theory and all...

Re: No Instagram, no privacy

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Post by asdff »

chelmzy wrote: post #23
ruined wrote: post #8

meta and its social networks have been a disaster for the human race

It's radicalizing as a twenty something who hasn't had social media in over a decade. Almost everything revolves around it or some friend Discord server. I hate it.

Don't worry by late 20s all that will quiet down in your friend group as people "adult" themselves into their boring 30 year old years. Tale as old as time.

Re: No Instagram, no privacy

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Post by pabs3 »

igor47 wrote: post #2

i've thought the same thing about email. i run my own email server, so i'm one of a very few number of people whose email is opaque to gmail. on the other hand -- almost everyone i exchange email with uses gmail, so actually gmail has almost all my email anyway.

The canonical blog post about that problem:

https://mako.cc/copyrighteous/google-has-most-of-my-email-be...

Re: No Instagram, no privacy

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Post by [deleted] »

procaryote wrote: post #63
timcobb wrote: post #22

This reminded me of the time ~10 years ago I was at an event featuring Richard Stallman, and he started by say that no one was allowed to post photos of him on FB. This was to a room of hundreds of people, mostly hackers. I thought, "damn, if there's an uphill battle somewhere, this guy will find it!"

You allowed to have boundaries even if there's a few assholes who won't respect them

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Re: No Instagram, no privacy

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Post by not_a_bot_4sho »

netsharc wrote: post #7

> Imagine a friend you were on a weekend trip with. This friend talks with another common friend. This common friend could have equally well been on that weekend trip because you like him or her but, due to circumstances, as is life, you did not invite him. You probably would feel uncomfortable with that first friend talking about that trip as if it was the most awesome trip ever, that everyone had non-stop fun and n…

> yeah I can imagine if they bothered, they could see that there's always a person or two in all the pictures that aren't associated with any of the faces of the accounts

This is a thing in FB: shadow accounts.

A lot of time and money and research goes into it, so that if/when people do decide to join, they will have a very "familiar" experience with all the right suggestions ready to go.

Yes, it's creepy as hell. No, you can't opt out as far as I know.

Re: No Instagram, no privacy

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Post by immibis »

steveBK123 wrote: post #15

One of my "its probably time to quit IG" moments prior to quitting 3 years involved being on a condo board. A resident sent a petition asking for a variance from the bylaws, and part of the pitch was "well I saw XYZ on your IG so I thought you'd approve of this". Uhh thanks, rejected.. blocked on IG, quit IG, bye.

That's just normal politics though? If you publicize that you have an interest in X, and you're on the board, and someone wants X from the board, isn't it normal they'd approach you first?

Were you trying to require them to use a more formal process? The smaller the number of people involved, the less formal the processes yet (no matter how much bureaucracy you try to drown them in - in a small political system, drowning someone in bureaucracy is just a rude way of saying no).

Re: No Instagram, no privacy

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Post by pixxel »

paxys wrote: post #75
alwa wrote: post #9

Earlier quoted context omitted.

There’s value in grace. For all sorts of reasons you might be right to do things that make other people feel bad. That’s no reason to rub their nose in it. What’s the virtue in offending people when you could instead be kind? I know one woman who is having a baby shower, and I know another woman who recently dealt with the loss of her child. It’s not “secrecy” to celebrate the baby shower and avoid bringing it up wit…

If a random guest came to me on my wedding day and said "I don't want you to post any photos of this event online because one of my friends just lost their spouse and I don't want them to see me at a wedding at this time", my response would (rightly) be - I'm sorry for their loss but that isn't going to stop me from celebrating my day in whatever way I see fit. Yes I obviously wouldn't go out of my way to call and te…

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Re: No Instagram, no privacy

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Post by steveBK123 »

immibis wrote: post #116
steveBK123 wrote: post #15

One of my "its probably time to quit IG" moments prior to quitting 3 years involved being on a condo board. A resident sent a petition asking for a variance from the bylaws, and part of the pitch was "well I saw XYZ on your IG so I thought you'd approve of this". Uhh thanks, rejected.. blocked on IG, quit IG, bye.

That's just normal politics though? If you publicize that you have an interest in X, and you're on the board, and someone wants X from the board, isn't it normal they'd approach you first? Were you trying to require them to use a more formal process? The smaller the number of people involved, the less formal the processes yet (no matter how much bureaucracy you try to drown them in - in a small political system, drow…

It was a third appeal to violate some building bylaws so they could make modification for personal use and exclusive benefit of communal property.

They thought I just might like what they were doing and approve it the third time lol.

edit to add more context: On condo boards you deal with a lot of self interested strong willed people who have unreasonable demands & complaints like - "why can't I just put a 1000 gallon hot tub on the roof above my neighbors bedroom without approval.. why do I need legal & architect review .. why do I have to pay for that review.. ". And on denial "hey I saw on your IG you went to an onsen once so I thought you'd like this idea!"

If you wanna do wtf you want, get a house with a large lot away from neighbors. If you want to share walls/floors/ceilings with other people, get used to their being some requirements for common sense and decency.

Re: No Instagram, no privacy

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Post by jjj123 »

ty6853 wrote: post #51
kcmastrpc wrote: post #27

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I've tried to incorporate the notion that it's none of my business what other people think of me. I don't always get it right, but having that attitude has helped tremendously on reducing my cortisol levels.

This is a huge relief, but it does come at a cost. What other people think of you is one of the largest inputs to access to jobs, sexual partners, and likelihood you'll be referred or witnessed against for prosecution for some inane zoning/HOA ordinance or petty crime (whether you did it or not) because you're not on someone's good side, etc etc. So the high cortisol levels may be warranted from the Darwinist perspec…

Caring about what other people think of you doesn’t actually result in other people thinking more highly of you.

I have fallen into this trap (and still do from time to time) of trying to control the way other people perceive me. The thing is, it only works like half the time and often actually backfires.

There are two reasons this doesn’t work: 1) you’re spending energy trying to control others’ perception of you and 2) you don’t actually know what’s going on in someone else’s head, so a lot of the time that energy isn’t well spent

Re: No Instagram, no privacy

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Post by raccoonhands »

if you're a passive person, there are most likely more famous people for them to judge and make fun of if that's what you're worried about who tarnish their images online every day! i look at posts like these like sharing a photo album with friends
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