Have ‘hobby’ apps become the new social networks?

Post by Der_Einzige » Sun, Sep 08, 2024, 3:59 PM UTC

SR2Z wrote: post #90

notjoemama wrote: post #85

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Cool. So online activists can become more engaged irl? Sounds great unless the activism is the kind you disagree with. Imagine this brining together a collection of white supremacists or antifa. Or pro-life versus pro-choice. This is the problem with the tech world. They are so preoccupied with whether they can, they don’t stop to think if they should. Yes, that's from Jurassic Park.

Look, even if it's white supremacists, it's still good for their mental health to meet up irl.

Post by Der_Einzige » Sun, Sep 08, 2024, 4:02 PM UTC

katamarimambo wrote: post #46

Trasmatta wrote: post #25

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This is the common advice, but it's also resulted in many of these hobby based events being overrun by people who are primarily there looking to find a date. It can be a weird dynamic. My suggestion is get a hobby that you explicitly are interested in, but don't go in with an expectation that you'll find someone, or make that your primary goal. > Chances are you present yourself way better in the real world vs online…

And even for those with better intentions, the low stakes interaction will become high stakes as attraction and expectations increase. When rejection almost inevitably happens at some point, bringing feelings of innability and jealousy, it will be tougher to deal, specially for the less experienced following this path. In this sense hookup culture can relieve such pressure and allows for decoupling the sexual needs,…

Post by bee_rider » Sun, Sep 08, 2024, 4:03 PM UTC

etrautmann wrote: post #18

marginalia_nu wrote: post #3

Can't be overstated how good having a setting centered on some common activity with low stakes social interaction is for building relationships, romantic as well as platonic. Hookup culture just isn't for everyone, and the notion that it is has been the cause of a lot of grief and agony.

Yes, I’ve always loved the camaraderie around climbing gyms and the community that develops naturally when you go to a gym consistently. Romantically it’s quite hard though, if a relationship is built around an activity, there are a number of challenges if someone’s interest shifts or a big skill mismatch etc.

Post by Der_Einzige » Sun, Sep 08, 2024, 4:05 PM UTC

nkingsy wrote: post #54

thimabi wrote: post #33

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Or maybe there’s a “Who Is Looking for Love?” coming up on Ask HN, much like the job threads :)

If you think dating apps skew male…

Post by Der_Einzige » Sun, Sep 08, 2024, 4:08 PM UTC

SunlitCat wrote: post #57

mhh__ wrote: post #28

Anecdotally run clubs are the dance halls of today (i.e. go to meet women)

Actually many sport activities seem to be largely women based, which kinda says much about men not really caring about their health. :)