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The important thing is we make this about Musk.
I'd try more like, the important thing is what we leave behind, what comes in our wake.
I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left
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Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left
#112Almost exactly 18 months ago, my then 87 year old father, after feeling unwell and having some fluid problems with his lungs was diagnosed with stage-4 lung cancer. He turned down treatment and died at home a couple days before Christmas last year. I've come away from the experience very unhappy with the medical system. There's a long list, things that in any other industry would be prosecuted. The medical and hospic…
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Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left
#113Almost exactly 18 months ago, my then 87 year old father, after feeling unwell and having some fluid problems with his lungs was diagnosed with stage-4 lung cancer. He turned down treatment and died at home a couple days before Christmas last year. I've come away from the experience very unhappy with the medical system. There's a long list, things that in any other industry would be prosecuted. The medical and hospic…
I'd rather not go into personal detail but I share a similar experience. The thing that really drove it home for me was when I got back home and was telling my own doctor about my experience dealing with family in the medical system and she said I was mistaken or there was a misunderstanding because that kind of thing doesn't happen. I asked why she was siding with a doctor she'd never met before instead of listening to her patient, which got her pretty flustered. I don't see her anymore.
Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left
#114Earlier quoted context omitted.
Gah that sucks. The randomness of it all is maddening. I buried an uncle a few months ago, he had a very nasty case of cancer and was in so much pain that we were all so grateful that at least here in NL there was the option to throw in the towel. He was a super nice man and I regret not having more contact with him in my life (my family is rather fragmented). But so much suffering is just too much to inflict on anyb…
I'm really sorry to hear it. :( The past few years seem to have been really hard on people, even those without COVID. It seems the number of deaths in my circle too has accelerated -- especially among the "old but still should have some life left in 'em" cohort.
I'm sort of mentally bracing myself for the next couple of years. In my family I'm give or take a week the oldest in my generation and pretty soon everybody above me will be gone. It will be a strange phase in my life, one where there is no more living tie to the past.
Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left
#115Almost exactly 18 months ago, my then 87 year old father, after feeling unwell and having some fluid problems with his lungs was diagnosed with stage-4 lung cancer. He turned down treatment and died at home a couple days before Christmas last year. I've come away from the experience very unhappy with the medical system. There's a long list, things that in any other industry would be prosecuted. The medical and hospic…
I won't agree about the American medical system but I'd say that our hospice system is pretty much Soylent Green.
Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left
#116My mom had a cough that wouldn't go away and covid 3 or 4 times during the last 2 years.
Turns out those symptoms were hiding breast cancer, which metasticized in 2 years, the chemo symptoms because too bad and so she had to stop, and now she's gone.
She was 59.
When I went to her house to tend to her dogs, she had been looking at retirement and hospice care for her "live out my last days" cancer life basically next door to me (she lives in a different state).
Fuck cancer.
Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left
#117Anyone else feeling anxious over their own mortality after reading this?
I always live and love like I’m dying so not really. My girlfriend recently asked me what I dream about and I replied honestly saying “I don’t dream, I live my dreams.” Then again, I am in the line of work best described as willingly agreeing to put an airplane together as I fall out of the sky. Not a whole lot of downtime in my days.
Accurate terminology.
The main reason I've been servicing airplane engines in flight for my employer is because on my own I already had "to put an airplane together as I fall out of the sky."
Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left
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I really wish people would stop saying “F cancer” As a society, we have the option of greatly reducing cancer deaths whenever we so choose. Let’s do that rather than raging against something that feels nothing. It has been over 15 years since the Last Lecture and we still have done little for pancreatic cancer, for example. https://youtu.be/ji5_MqicxSo According to Craig Venter, early detection is what we need to eli…
We also have a lot of data on ways to reduce cancer before it happens. Reduce obesity. Reduce pollution. Etc. Yet we really aren't doing an awful lot about those things. Imagine for example if we had an obesity tax - everyone obese must pay 30% of their earnings into a Medicare fund. Sure it would be unpopular, but obesity would very quickly be solved, and cancer rates would plummet.
Interesting enough, the person on Twitter seems fit and not very old.
15 years ago Randy Pausch was also fit a year before he died.
So, instead of blaming people for poor choices imagine if 16 years ago, when the US National Debt was a mere $9 trillion, if enough people were inspired that on our way to $31 trillion in debt, we spent a few trillion of that on cancer research.
Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left
#119Earlier quoted context omitted.
How haven’t you been kind to your body?
Bike accident (utterly self inflicted), 1000's of all-nighters, too little exercise (which I guess you can always point at, I bike a lot but that's not balanced exercise), diet, overstressed joints/muscles by doing too much physical work beyond my ability (usually when remodeling houses or constructing stuff). Coupled with a nice assortment of genetic heritage and some regular diseases (COVID, kidneys, gall bladder,…
For me 47 to 52 has been like a steep drop as well. I have neither been great or awful in taking care of myself, but it has clearly added up.
Now facing open-heart surgery with all its risks and complications sometime soon. I knew that was always a possibility due to a congenital heart defect but five years ago it seemed unlikely and suddenly in the last 18 months it became a clear eventuality.
Trying to reframe that in the most positive way possible in my mind and also stop blaming myself for not taking better care of myself. It’s hard.
Re: I’ve been battling cancer last 2 years, but now only have a few days left
#120Almost exactly 18 months ago, my then 87 year old father, after feeling unwell and having some fluid problems with his lungs was diagnosed with stage-4 lung cancer. He turned down treatment and died at home a couple days before Christmas last year. I've come away from the experience very unhappy with the medical system. There's a long list, things that in any other industry would be prosecuted. The medical and hospic…
A big issue medical system side are basically absent family who only show up for end of life. A lot of folks threatening lawsuits etc. Few folks willing to pay much to make anything better - lots of asset transfer games. It’s usually but not always the most absent family members who get the most upset at those who are helping toilet someone etc. This has nothing to do with OPs point except there is frustration on both sides , and folks living far from family and/or being heavily into the rat race may be a contributor as the med system try’s substituting for large tight knit family and social structures that have been diminished