I'd honestly rather someone forget my name than appear to remember it because they looked it up in some "relationship manager".
The idea is to keep the relationship manager a secret.
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#112> Monica lets you quickly and easily log all those information so you can be a better friend, family member or spouse. Are we sure that to be a better friend, you need a digital reminder that your friends, their children, etc, exist? I used to have calendar reminders of birthdays of friends, etc. I then removed them all. If it's really about a friend, I will remember without any help.
Not everyone has a good memory. Having a terrible memory isn’t a choice someone makes.
Not wanting to hurt loved ones by forgetting important dates is a choice one can make. Tools help.
As someone with a memory poor enough to qualify as an actual disability, it irks me to no end to see people equating ability to memorize (and also recall at the right time without prompting) with the amount that they value a person or relationship. It’s simply not true.
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#113> Monica lets you quickly and easily log all those information so you can be a better friend, family member or spouse. Are we sure that to be a better friend, you need a digital reminder that your friends, their children, etc, exist? I used to have calendar reminders of birthdays of friends, etc. I then removed them all. If it's really about a friend, I will remember without any help.
My sister is autistic and was excited when I sent this to her. She struggles with these types of things, despite being extroverted and deeply caring of her friends.
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#114It's disappointing that there's no screenshot of the actual functionality on the front page
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#116> Monica lets you quickly and easily log all those information so you can be a better friend, family member or spouse. Are we sure that to be a better friend, you need a digital reminder that your friends, their children, etc, exist? I used to have calendar reminders of birthdays of friends, etc. I then removed them all. If it's really about a friend, I will remember without any help.
Not everyone has a good memory. Having a terrible memory isn’t a choice someone makes. Not wanting to hurt loved ones by forgetting important dates is a choice one can make. Tools help. As someone with a memory poor enough to qualify as an actual disability, it irks me to no end to see people equating ability to memorize (and also recall at the right time without prompting) with the amount that they value a person or…
+1 I don't gave a generally poor memory but my memory for dates is horrible. I've missed my loved one's birthdays and important life events before, though generally not by much, enough to disappoint. Using tools to help with this has been life changing.
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Well this is a very simple system and could for instance be reimplemented in Ruby On Rails in ... a few days?
Founder of Monica and Chandler here. It's so easy that the rewrite (aka Chandler) has taken Alexis and me 11 months so far, as a side project, and working most nights and weekends (check the number of commits). I know that Monica appears to be easy, and Chandler also, but it's not easy. Making a clone for yourself is easier, although not that easy if you want to replicate all the features. Making a clone for an entir…
Is there a feature allowing to see at a glance all my contacts (group by category) and if they are getting stale? Didn’t see it at a glance.
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#118> Monica lets you quickly and easily log all those information so you can be a better friend, family member or spouse. Are we sure that to be a better friend, you need a digital reminder that your friends, their children, etc, exist? I used to have calendar reminders of birthdays of friends, etc. I then removed them all. If it's really about a friend, I will remember without any help.
Generally I cannot remember anyone's birthday if it isn't at least in my calendar.
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The idea is to keep the relationship manager a secret.
I know. I don't want the fake memory.
The name of a friend, sure, I agree.
What about the name of a dude you got introduced to at a party and they mentioned they played the guitar and you were thinking about starting a garage band the next year?
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First, thank you for your work. I must admit though I was hoping that the rewrite would be in Go (or Rust) for the simple use case of a dead-simple binary deploy with a built in sqlite or rocks/level database that can handle as many users as you can throw at it on a $2-5 VPS instance.
In terms of simplicity, nothing beats PHP. It's easily deployable everywhere, everyone knows how to use this simple language, and the Laravel ecosystem is fantastic. But I understand what you mean.
This is only true if you have a LAMP server already. On none of my servers runs PHP, so setting that up would be definitly more work than adding another binary to my systemd.